Tarot Reflections: Divine Love Relationship Advice

 

The Fool tells us to trust in the Universe’s plan. We must leap into our lives full force without fear or doubt. We might fail. But we will always be able to pick ourselves back up and try again. The Universe will always have our back. It will always save us. We have to LIVE and have fun and connect to our inner children and PLAY again. We cannot allow these connections to drag us down and keep us from living in a state of joy, as we are meant to. It’s all about new beginnings and giving into the energy of the connection. It’s time to leave our worries behind and let the Divine guide us. Spirit is there to help. We just need to let go first. As soon as we get out of its way, amazing things are possible.

The Universe brings the message that there are sacred karmic cycles that are taking place. We must accept them and do our best not to fight against them. They are set in place, turning like the gears of a clock, balancing everything in perfect timing. What may seem like a quiet period of our lives, behind the scenes, there could be many pieces of the puzzle configuring and finding their way to fit, interlocking with each other. Trust in the cycles. They serve a higher purpose. We may not understand them, but like the seasons that are constantly changing, they sweep away the old and bring in the new. Let the old leaves fall away so the new flowers have room to blossom.

The 2 of Disks is a reminder that these unions are rooted in balance. In this card, the snake creates two orbs, whole circles with its tail. This represents the infinity symbol. The more balanced and whole we are, the more we are at peace. We must remember that our Divine partner does not complete us. We are very much whole with or without them. Our energy is power. It can attract or repel depending on the equilibrium. Obsessive energy is connected to fear and unworthiness. When we obsess over somebody or something, it eludes us. We can never quite grasp it, and the more we chase it, the further away it becomes. Inner balance is the key to a healthy state of mind. In a Divine Union since we are connected by etheric cords, we are constantly exchanging energy with our partners. We must be mindful of the energy we are sending them. Sending them loving, joyful energy is much better than sending them pushy, obsessive, unhappy energy. When we are happy and balanced, they feel it too.

 

How to Live When You Feel like Dying Part 3: Soul Connection Trauma

 

Written By Monique Colette

Soul Connection Trauma

I have been through what you’re going through now. I understand the agony, the ungodly, unrelenting energetic chaos, the pull of your soul to theirs, the non-stop recurring dreams of them, the signs everywhere that only remind you of them, the heart chakra pain, the anxiety, the depression, and the feeling that you will never get through this. I want you to know that you will. But it’s going to take work on your part. You can’t give into it. You can’t wait for happiness. You have to create it yourself.

Once you meet a soul connection, your life will never be the same: It shatters you, turns you inside out, changes your cellular DNA, awakens your spiritual gifts, forces you to face your demons, unveils your shadow, drags you through a Dark Night of the Soul that will feel like death, opens your eyes to synchronicity, clears your karma, heals you, and leaves you sobbing in a pool of tears, praying to God to make the pain and ultimately, the bond to your twin go away. Your friends and family won’t understand what you’re going through. You will feel judged and ashamed that you can’t just move on and starting dating random people. You will feel crazy and obsessed. You will feel delusional. You will feel emotionally unbalanced. You will feel like a walking ball of electricity. You will read everything you can about Twin Flames and soul mates, and you still won’t have a clue what you’re experiencing. Nothing will make sense.

You won’t want to kill yourself, but you don’t want to live, so you end up existing. You will wake up every day and it will feel like a curse. You will swear at the Universe/God for destroying the life you used to know. You will resent people who are in easy regular relationships. When you tell somebody you love this person, they will tell you it’s time to move on. They will tell you it’s not meant to be. You will fall into a deeper depression. It will feel like an abyss that you’re stumbling into and nothing can stop you from falling deeper. You wonder how far you are from hitting bottom. You’ve always considered yourself a sexual person, but now the thought of having casual sex with somebody makes you nauseous. So where do you go from here? You have two options: You can allow this spiritual journey destroy you, or you can let it strengthen and change you. You have all the power, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

I am not like other bloggers/Twin Flame experts: I will not tell you what you want to hear. I don’t believe in Twin Flame magical thinking, because I know how destructive it can be. I don’t believe that a spiritual connection gives you a reason to wait for reunion. I don’t think a connection should ever interfere with your happiness. I have seen enough blogs and stories of people who spend years pining over a Twin Flame to know how detrimental this is to a person’s well being and ultimate quality of life. Even if this person is the other half of your soul (if that’s your belief), what happens to you when your twin isn’t ready? What happens to you when they don’t want to be part of your life? What happens to you when they don’t feel the connection the way you do? What happens to your life? Now let’s say you believe that they’re “running”, so you blame them. You think “they’re not ready, because they fear love and they don’t believe they are worthy. They don’t want to do the work. They don’t want to spiritually awaken. They’re in another relationship because it’s easy. They’re not even happy with this person, but they stay because they’re scared of the connection we have.” Okay, that’s fine if you believe this, but now what? Where does this leave you? Ask yourself “What am I doing to improve my life? What am I doing to bring joy into my life without my twin?” If you can’t answer or don’t know, then you have work to do. It’s time to put the focus back on you.

Since the Universe is made up entirely of energy, you have to learn how to work with the Universal Laws. If you focus all your time and energy on this spiritual connection, you will only push the person away and stagnate the energy of the connection you have with them. Basically you have to do the opposite of what feels right. Since the energy of a Twin Flame connection is so powerful and intense, your instinct is to only think and worry about them. But the more you think about them, the more obsessed you will become, and the less the energy between you two will flow. The only way to stop obsessing is to create outlets to pour your energy into. The goal is to pull away the energy from your Twin Flame, so you are able to dive into your passions and focus on your life purpose, whatever that may be.

You have been awakened by your twin, so that you will begin your mission. This mission may be spiritual, but it doesn’t have to be. It could be as simple as “you need to start writing”, or “you need to create a community of people with shared interests.” But it could also be “you need to become a healer, so you can heal others”, or “you need to become a yoga teacher to help people spiritually connect.” Your mission is unique. A spiritual obsession with your twin will only keep you distracted from this mission. If you are currently feeling this obsession, it’s okay. Be gentle with yourself. You can slowly pull your energy away from them, which will release the obsession. It may take time, but you can do it. Don’t get discouraged and be patient with your progress.

You may ask “But what about them? I want to be with them in a physical relationship?’ I want to be in union.” This is understandable. The more you balance your energy, which requires lots of grounding and the more you focus on you, that’s when the energy between you and your twin starts moving again. At this point, there will be a chance of reunion. In many cases, twins choose to stay separated. In those instances, a new soul connection will come into your life, and believe it or not, the relationship can be just as fulfilling. Another soul connection will feel like home, just as you felt with your twin. It may not be the same love, but it will be just as beautiful and Divine. Trust in what the Universe has in store for you. But at this point, you don’t have to worry about any of this. The only thing you have to start working on is your energy and yourself. That’s it. Release your fears to the Universe. Ask your Spirit Guides and Angels to take away your anxiety and sleepless nights. Let them handle the heavy stuff. Your goal at this time needs to be refocusing your energy on you and finding your passions and creating new ones. This is how you rebuild on an energetic level after devastation and trauma.

My yoga teacher always says “no rush” in the most calming, soothing voice, particularly during our flow, where everything naturally speeds up. And I think about that phrase outside of class from time to time, when I feel stress and want to rush, or I have that fight or flight anxious feeling. Use those words as your mantra in your journey. Cultivating patience with yourself and your healing is important. There is no rush. You are exactly in the right place at the right time at all times. Do not compare your journey with others. Embrace your spiritual path. It is as beautiful and special as you. Whatever you need, ask the Universe to provide, and if you believe, it will naturally flow to you.

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We are here to help you with whatever you are dealing with.  Find out if reconnection is possible or how you can move on. We can guide you in any situation, no matter how difficult and complex it may seem.

Twin Flame Challenges

“Love that is not madness is not love.” ~ Pedro Calderon de la Barca

During my Twin Flame journey, one thing I kept asking myself was “Why is this so hard?” I had always thought when you met the love of your life, everything would be smooth sailing. But when I met my twin, there was nothing easy about it. Meeting him triggered all my issues.

Something about him brought out a deep-seated fear in me, which manifested itself as severe anxiety. I had never felt this before when I was first dating somebody. It was intense. What was supposed to be a wonderful time of getting to know each other and building a foundation never seemed to give me any pleasure. I was so scared that it was going to end that I could never enjoy it. I put on a good face for him, but he had no idea the personal hell I was suffering through. My head was a prison of negative thinking and fear. I was in a constant state of worry. I just wanted him to love me. And nothing else mattered in my life except that need for him to love me.

All my fears, all the dysfunctions, all the toxic thoughts reared their ugly heads, which ultimately caused our separation. Meeting my twin drove me to madness. Why? Because he connected me to MYSELF. Twin Flames are made from the same soul: One is the Divine feminine, and the other is the Divine masculine. Regardless of what we may have read: These are two different entities, and they do not need one another to be complete. If we meet our Twin Flame, and we don’t have a relationship with him/her or the relationship ends, it’s okay. We are whole with or without the other twin. We must never believe otherwise.

By connecting me to myself, I was forced to deal with my mind, which was the equivalent of a cluttered attic that needed a good cleaning, but I never wanted to take the time to do it. Once I met my twin, the universe grabbed hold of me and said “Guess what you’re going to be working on! YOU NEED TO CLEAN OUT YOUR ATTIC. You’ve put it off long enough!” And the universe will lock the door until the job is done. This is why we feel chained to our twins. We can’t escape the connection until we clean our attics.

People have asked me “How do you know what your issues are?” And I always tell them “They reveal themselves to you over the course of an introspection process.” If you start to look inward, the universe will show you what they are. Embrace it: This is your lifetime to heal.

Your issues may manifest themselves in your dreams. If you’re dreaming of your twin, how is he/she acting toward you? How is the dream making you feel? If there are other people in the dream, how are they acting? How are they making you feel? Keep a pad of paper by your bed, so you can write them down. When you have a dream, immediately write down whatever you remember. The longer you’re awake after a dream, the more you’ll forget.

During this time, you may want to meditate for at least 5 minutes every day. This will center you and connect you to your Higher Self. You may even receive guidance easier after meditating. And it’s a fantastic way to relax. If you don’t like meditation, try yoga. My yoga instructor calls yoga “moving meditation.” It works the same way, only you get a great workout at the same time.

Buy a journal. Write down any songs or phrases that pop into your head. If you hear a random conversation where you have a gut feeling that you’re meant to hear it, listen closely. Pay attention to your thoughts. If you feel guided to read a certain book, take a class, or even schedule an appointment for some type of self-improvement session or therapy, do it!

Your Spirit Guides and Angels are doing everything they can to help you heal. All you have to do is listen to your intuition. You will be surprised by everything you discover about yourself. It’s as if there is a magnifying glass on all your broken pieces. The universe wants you to fix yourself once and for all. And it uses this Twin Flame connection to do it.

Looking inward is difficult: This is the reason why many twins run from the connection. It’s easier to run than it is to face our issues. My twin decided not to do the inner work. The universe gave him the opportunity, but he chose otherwise.

I spent two years carrying the guilt and pain of him not choosing the path to heal. It was destroying me. It took for me to sink into a deep depression that I could no longer fight my way through, to realize I needed help. I had hit bottom. I was in an abyss that I couldn’t escape. I was a shell of the person I once was. I knew I needed to book a session with my spiritual teacher/healer. I didn’t want to live like this anymore. Something had to change. I had to save my life.

My Reiki healer told me I was ready to let him go. It was time. I had learned my lessons. And she told me that I had to let him heal himself and not to feel any more blame. I had to now focus on myself and my happiness.

My soul was enmeshed in his soul, taking on all his issues and emotional wounds. It’s no wonder I felt like I was drowning in hopelessness all the time. I wanted him to heal so badly, that I was trying to do all the work for him. It was the equivalent of me cleaning out his attic night and day until I was exhausted and ready to pass out while he was out having fun, doing everything to avoid it. But that’s not how it works: He needs to clean his own attic! And if he doesn’t want to clean it, it’s not my problem.

We have to let our twins do their own healing. And we can’t help them or rush the process. If our twins do not choose to heal, there is nothing we can do. We have to let them go. We have to envision them walking with us down a path. I like to imagine it as the “Yellow Brick Road.” We’re holding hands with our twins, and suddenly our twins stop and say “I can’t go any further. I’m not ready to go where you’re heading.” And with that, we give them a loving hug and let go of their hand and continue on our way.

We have to realize that letting them go is a way for us to express our unconditional love to them. We can’t drag them, and they don’t want to be dragged. We have to accept that our journey continues regardless if they’re by our sides. And we must know that they will always be connected to our souls. Nothing will ever change that. How can we ever be separated if their soul is perpetually touching ours? And one of the biggest challenges of the Twin Flame connection is not only understanding that truth, but taking comfort in it.

 

Divine Connections: I Believe in Love

Over the past year, I’ve switched back and forth from label to label, trying to pinpoint my soul connection. Is he a soul mate? Is he a Twin Flame? Is he just the love of my life? What is he to me? Who is he? And it’s taken me much analysis, much research, to realize that love has no labels. And honestly, the universe doesn’t need you to label it.

The universe wants you to trust in the power of the connection and how it will transform you if you allow it. Transformation is an incredible thing: It’s one of the most miraculous, life-changing experiences, but you must have total faith in the process, which can be incredibly difficult.

Love is love. It’s an all-encompassing feeling that fills your whole mind, body, and soul with warmth. Why put a label on something so pure and beautiful? The answer is: You don’t need to, ever.

Everybody has free will in every lifetime. Ultimately, you choose who you want to be with, and labels are nothing but words on paper. Soul connections don’t care about your labels. They honor a whole other set of spiritual rules. Only your ego wants to label this perfect connection that’s been blessed by the universe; and it will drive you absolutely insane trying to figure it out. I suggest you don’t even bother, and leave that nasty ego at the door where it belongs.

Your ego has no clue about the spiritual world, and it’s not supposed to: It has other purposes. It helps shape your personality, but when it comes to dealing with Divine connections, it’s a downright nuisance. Your ego will keep you up at night, wracked with anxiety trying to figure it all out.

“What is happening to me?! Who is this person? Why am I so connected to them? Why is it they are the only person I can think about every waking moment of my life? Why am I being cursed!”: These are all thoughts that will cross your mind at some point after you meet this person. And you’ll desperately search the internet and read books to make sense of it. I did – for months.

You may even spend hundreds of dollars on constant psychic readings, asking if this is an indeed a “soul mate” or a “Twin Flame.” And even if the psychic tells you “Yes, this is your Twin Flame!”, where does that get you? Nowhere. You’re still back in the same situation. Nothing changed, except you fed your greedy little ego for a few temporary moments, and now you’re out $50. How do you feel? The same. In a few days, you start doubting what the psychic said, now here comes the extreme anxiety and fear, greeting you once again like an old friend.

You run back online to do some more research. You may even buy “soul mate” or “Twin Flame” books to really get to the bottom of this. You have to know! “Who is this person who is turning my life upside down! What is the label for this obsession?!”

The vicious cycle continues, and it’s only kept you from what you really need to do, which is to work on YOURSELF, and by not working on yourself, you’re not achieving what the universe wants for you. And if you’re separated from your soul partner, until you’ve worked on yourself, you will not have the chance to reconnect with this person. Some will reconnect, others will not. It all depends on choices of the couple and free will.

If you don’t do the inner work, you’re telling the universe “Nope, I’m not ready to be with him/her!” Until you become a rock,  you can never be somebody else’s rock. The inner work will transform you, and in turn, it will transform the connection. If both partners have the desire to heal, they will come back together to do it.

Call him/her whatever you want. All the labels in the world won’t make it so you don’t have to fix yourself. The universe plays hardball whether you like it or not. You either get on the field with your catcher’s mitt, or you spend the rest of the time sitting on the bench waiting for nothing to happen. Love is all you ever need to believe in. It will change your whole world whether you’re ready or not.

New Moon Peacock Spell to Find a Soulmate

Since the New Moon is approaching (January 30), I created a spell to manifest a romantic soulmate. This is a spell for somebody who is serious about meeting a life partner. If you have any baggage or emotional issues from a past relationship, I highly recommend not doing this particular spell. Cast this spell when the timing feels right. If you have issues, work on yourself first.

Manifesting a soulmate is no joke. Make sure you know what you’re asking for because meeting a soulmate will rock your world. You are asking the Universe to send you a soul connection. This is somebody with whom you have shared past lives.

It is one of the deepest connections you can have with a person, because you have met them many times before in previous lifetimes. You will trigger each other’s issues; you will help each other grow. However, personal growth is not all hearts and roses: In fact, growth can be quite painful at times. One has to understand how soulmate love has been romanticized, losing its true meaning over the years. This is a spiritual connection first, a romantic relationship second.

If you’re not ready to love, if you’re not ready to be loved, and if you don’t love yourself, meeting a soulmate can be hell on earth. This is a spell for people who are truly ready for a loving relationship.

What you will need:
2 red candles
1 pink candle
2 peacock feathers
1 chunk of raw rose quartz (the bigger, the better)
rose oil
lavender incense
sea salt

Before you cast the spell
The first step is washing your hands with sea salt and water. As you scrub the salt on to your hands, envision cleansing yourself of any pain from past relationships. You are wiping the slate clean for new love to enter your life. Rinse your hands.

Next, you will take a few drops of rose oil and anoint the candles. To anoint a candle, you will be starting from the center and working up. Once half the candle is anointed with oil, you finish coating the bottom half by starting in the center and working down. As you do this, think of you filling the candle with love. You can even say “I am filling this candle with the love of the Universe.”

Now, you will light the lavender incense to cleanse the space in which you will be casting your spell. Think of the smoke clearing away all the negative energy. It’s a way of “cleaning house” before your spell.

Write down your prayer of intention. These are words you are going to say out loud as you cast your spell. Be clear. I cannot stress this enough. There is a saying: “Be careful what you wish for.” You are basically wishing during a spell. Make sure you cover all the bases. Saying you want a relationship could mean many things. You may meet somebody and become friends with them only, because you didn’t specify what type of relationship you wanted. The Universe is funny that way. It takes your words literally.

Tell the Universe what you are seeking in a partner. Go into as much detail as you want about this soulmate. Word it in the “present” tense, as if you are already with this person. For example, instead of saying “I want a loving relationship”, say “I am in a loving relationship.” Tell the Universe what type of relationship you have with this soulmate. Visualize it in your head to help you.

Casting your spell
Take a few deep breaths. Center yourself. If you’re feeling stressed or anxious, meditate for a few minutes. Envision your ritual space in the middle of a circle. The circle is protected from all energy except who what type of energy you choose to invite in. Say out loud “Archangel Michael and all the Archangels, please keep my circle protected. May only the highest of Love, Light, and Wisdom enter my circle.” There are different ways to cast a circle. This is the method I use when casting mine.

You will now call in any deities into your circle. I personally believe in God, so I call in “God.” However, you may feel more comfortable calling in “gods or goddesses” or other “Ascended Masters.” Whomever you pray to, is who you will invite into your circle. I also invite in my Angels and Spirit Guides of Love and Light.

Position your candles. The first red candle represents you. The second red candle represents your soulmate. You are going to face these across from each other. Place the pink candle in the middle. The pink candle represents LOVE. This is the love that you two will have together in your relationship.

Now, take the chunk of rose quartz and place it next to the pink candle. The rose quartz will raise the power of the spell. Rose quartz attracts love. Next, you will place your two peacock feathers next to the candles. One feather represents you. The other represents your soulmate. Peacock feathers are used in magick, because the “eye” on the feather symbolizes the “third eye.” It’s also known as your brow or sixth chakra. The third eye sees everything. It sees what your normal eyes do not. Think of you and your soulmate opening your “eyes” to find each other.

Say your prayer of intention out loud. You may chant it once, or as many times as you see fit. It’s your personal preference. This is your spell. Make it whatever you want it to be. At the end of your prayer of intention, say “Please bring this soulmate to me as long as Free Will allows. So mote it be.” Then light the candles and burn them all the way down.

Once you light the candles, it will be time to close down your circle. Thank all the deities, Angels, and Spirit Guides whom you have invited into your circle. Then ask them to leave your circle, as the spell has been cast, and the circle must be closed.

Keep your candles lit until they burn down on their own. Be safe. If you need to leave the house or go to bed, snuff out the candles, do not blow them out. Fire safety is a priority. It will not affect the power of the spell if you have to snuff them out and re-light them later. As long as you burn down the candles, the spell will be effective.

Once the spell is cast, do not think about it. Let the Universe do its work. Enjoy your life. Have faith. Let life happen. Don’t try to hold on too tightly to how it happens. Trust that everything will work out for the highest good.

I cast mine this past weekend, and this is what it looked like. I added some tarot cards to the spell, but it’s not required. Do whatever comes naturally. If there is something you think you should add to the ritual, by all means, do it! The key to spellwork is adding elements that will help you envision your desire happening. It’s similar to a vision board in that regard.