Tarot Reflections: Divine Love Relationship Advice

 

The Fool tells us to trust in the Universe’s plan. We must leap into our lives full force without fear or doubt. We might fail. But we will always be able to pick ourselves back up and try again. The Universe will always have our back. It will always save us. We have to LIVE and have fun and connect to our inner children and PLAY again. We cannot allow these connections to drag us down and keep us from living in a state of joy, as we are meant to. It’s all about new beginnings and giving into the energy of the connection. It’s time to leave our worries behind and let the Divine guide us. Spirit is there to help. We just need to let go first. As soon as we get out of its way, amazing things are possible.

The Universe brings the message that there are sacred karmic cycles that are taking place. We must accept them and do our best not to fight against them. They are set in place, turning like the gears of a clock, balancing everything in perfect timing. What may seem like a quiet period of our lives, behind the scenes, there could be many pieces of the puzzle configuring and finding their way to fit, interlocking with each other. Trust in the cycles. They serve a higher purpose. We may not understand them, but like the seasons that are constantly changing, they sweep away the old and bring in the new. Let the old leaves fall away so the new flowers have room to blossom.

The 2 of Disks is a reminder that these unions are rooted in balance. In this card, the snake creates two orbs, whole circles with its tail. This represents the infinity symbol. The more balanced and whole we are, the more we are at peace. We must remember that our Divine partner does not complete us. We are very much whole with or without them. Our energy is power. It can attract or repel depending on the equilibrium. Obsessive energy is connected to fear and unworthiness. When we obsess over somebody or something, it eludes us. We can never quite grasp it, and the more we chase it, the further away it becomes. Inner balance is the key to a healthy state of mind. In a Divine Union since we are connected by etheric cords, we are constantly exchanging energy with our partners. We must be mindful of the energy we are sending them. Sending them loving, joyful energy is much better than sending them pushy, obsessive, unhappy energy. When we are happy and balanced, they feel it too.

 

Tarot Reflections: Lust – Ace of Cups – Knight of Disks

 

Lust represents what we desire, our passions that run deep, our secrets, the things that make our our bodies and hearts light up with fire because we want them so badly. It is a soul yearning for something bigger than us. It is time to ask ourselves what we truly want and stop feeling ashamed of that desire. There is nothing wrong with giving into our soul’s desires. And yes, we deserve it. We are worthy of these things. Allow this want to be heard by the Universe. Speak it loudly.

The Ace of Cups is about emotional openness, a fresh energy, accepting new into our lives, and not being afraid of our emotional depths. It’s okay to allow people into our hearts. It’s a wonderful thing to be able accept love without fear. We are present and willing, open to the possibilities of new connections. Everything is better because we have let go of the past and the emotional weight that we had been carrying for so long. There is nothing holding us back anymore.

The Knight of Disks tells us that we are strong and balanced. We are ready to manifest amazing things because we are ready for them. From the fire of Lust and the water of the Ace of Cups, now here we are with the earth beneath our feet, to ground us. Everything is secure and safe. This is where we can build our empires, homes, and businesses, from this place of stability within us. The Knight never had to rush to get there. He took his time to reach his destination. He is now observing how far he’s come in his journey, feeling gratitude for everything he has accomplished.

4 of Cups: Luxury

Bliss—a-second-by-second joy and gratitude at the gift of being alive, conscious—lies on the other side of crushing, crushing boredom. Pay close attention to the most tedious thing you can find (Tax Returns, Televised Golf) and, in waves, a boredom like you’ve never known will wash over you and just about kill you. Ride these out, and it’s like stepping from black and white into color. Like water after days in the desert. Instant bliss in every atom.”

– David Foster Wallace

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The journey through the tarot cups continues as we move away from the celebratory energy of the 3 of Cups to the stable and balanced, yet slightly boring, 4 of Cups. Aleister Crowley titled it “Luxury.” When you look at the Thoth 4 of Cups, you see a lovely image of 4 golden cups flowing with water. Everything seems perfect, but in life, nothing is ever perfect.

This card warns us that when things get too comfortable, we have the tendency to wonder what it would be like to have a different life. What we once desired, we may not even want anymore. And what is being offered to us, we may not even see because we’re too focused on our current emotional yearning and dissatisfaction. We are all caught up in what we don’t have rather than what we already do or could have. It carries the message: The grass is always greener on the other side.

Crowley writes: “The card refers to the Moon in Cancer, which is her own house; but Cancer itself is so placed that this implies a certain weakness, an abandonment to desire. This tends to introduce the seeds of decay into the fruit of pleasure.” The theme of this card is ennui.

I once had a dream where I saw this card, and I heard a voice say “SUBURBIA.” When I awoke, I completely understood the meaning of the 4 of Cups. Living in the suburbs in a house with a white picket fence with a husband/wife, kids, and a dog could be boring at times, especially if the couple didn’t switch up their routine once in a while and make a conscious effort to stop and have a little fun.

This card makes me think of the vibrantly colored cookie cutter houses in the movie, Edward Scissorhands, where everything is the same. Stability and comfort are nice, but sometimes you want more from life. I believe we can create our most optimal life and make it uniquely ours without having to follow anybody else’s personal template for happiness and fulfillment.

The 4 of Cups asks us to ponder the existential questions: “What do we truly want from life? And when we attain those life goals, what will keep us from taking our comfortable, “happy” life for granted?” Stability is lovely to have in a relationship, a job, or life in general, but in regards, to emotions, there is no way to go but down, as stability quickly turns to stagnancy. In a relationship reading this could be showing us that the fantasy bubble has burst, the honeymoon phase is over, and now we need to figure out how to keep it from growing stagnant.

On a lighter note, this card may also represent the notion of self-love, sending the message that the love we find within ourselves is the basis of our happiness; it is the foundation from which to build a relationship. Emotional stability and structure in our core are the keys to a lasting relationship with another person.

In the book, Understanding Aleister Crowley’s Thoth Tarot, Lon DuQuette declares: “Love leads to Abundance, which (left uncontrolled) leads to Luxury which (left uncontrolled) leads to decadence, boredom, frustration – and Disappointment.”

Astrologically, it corresponds to Moon in the 3rd Decan of Cancer. In regards to the Quabalah, Tree of Life, it is Chesed through Water.

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3 of Cups: Abundance

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“Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.” – Winnie the Pooh

The 3 of Cups appears in a reading when we are living in a state of joy and pleasure. It is the celebration card. If the Ace of Cups is the seed, and the 2 of Cups is the bud, the 3 of Cups is the blossom. Aleister Crowley titled it “Abundance” and stated it was: “The fulfillment of Will of Love in abounding joy. It is the spiritual basis of fertility.”

In this card, we see pomegranates adorning three cups. The pomegranates represent Persephone, the goddess of the underworld and wife of Hades, the god of the underworld.  These are symbolic of marriage, fertility, abundance, and rebirth.

In the myth of Persephone, Hades was madly in love with her and wanted her as his wife, so he tricked her into eating six pomegranate seeds. She didn’t realize that for each pomegranate seed eaten, she would have to spend one month a year in the underworld with Hades.

According to the legend, she lived with Hades as his wife for six months out of the year, and stayed with her mother, Demeter, goddess of the earth, for the other half of the year. Crowley, the true pessimist, gives us a subtle warning with this card that emotional fulfillment may have a shadow side to it: All that glitters is not gold. He states: “The good things in life, although enjoyed, should be distrusted.” Talk about a buzzkill!

In the Thoth 3 of Cups, eight golden lotus flowers are displayed. Lotus blossoms symbolize rebirth, regeneration, and reincarnation. Lotus flowers grow from muddy water. During the day, they open to allow the rays of the sun to give them life. In the evening, they close as the moonlight shines upon them in their deep slumber. Every morning, they are brought back to life by the sun.

The three chalices may represent specific people, emotions, or situations where we experience good times. It may show up in a reading as a girls’ night out, a party, a first date, a committed relationship, or as a message that we need to experience more joy in our lives. It’s the card that tells us not to take life too seriously and to have a little fun. Life is to be enjoyed to the fullest.

In regards to a relationship, after much analyzing and introspection, I’ve realized that the 3 of Cups may represent the two people in the relationship and the separate entity that is the relationship itself. Two people create the relationship. The relationship is their baby, in a sense.

Through their effort, they make the relationship into whatever they choose it to be. It requires both of them to make the union work. Each person must put in the same amount of effort as the other for it to be balanced. All three cups must be flowing with equal amounts of water, otherwise there’s going to be an imbalance in the relationship. Since each chalice is overflowing with water (emotion/love), it may be a message that for a relationship to truly last, each person must love himself/herself first.

It corresponds astrologically to Mercury in the 2nd Decan of Cancer. In the Quabalah Tree of Life, it is Binah through Water.

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2 of Cups: Love

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“We loved with a love that was more than love.”
– Edgar Allan Poe

If the Ace of Cups is the emotional offering, the 2 of Cups is the connection that follows. It represents love, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. It’s about harmony and emotional union. In this card, love has a focus. It takes two people to love the other for there to be a true flowing connection. There is an exchange of balanced emotional energy here.

The 2 of Cups often times alludes to a romantic love, but it may show up as a friendship or familial love as well. Some of our closest friends are our soul mates. We love them even if we are not romantically involved with them. It symbolizes any connection that touches our hearts as much as we touch theirs.

The most important aspect of this card is mutual feelings. This is not a card that would appear in a reading about unrequited love or somebody giving more in a friendship than the other person. This is all about balance and the feeling that you get back as much as you give in this relationship.

Aleister Crowley titled this card “Love” and described it as “Love under Will.” He believed it was the harmony of the feminine and masculine. In the Thoth version, there are two heraldic dolphins (pink with yellow fins) entwined around a pink lotus. Water flows onto their heads and gushes out their mouths to fill two large gold chalices. The dolphin and chalice on the right side mirrors the pair on the opposite side. This signifies mutual emotions, a truly balanced union of love.

Something to note: The dolphin was sacred to Aphrodite (Venus), the goddess of Love. It was also the companion to both the god Apollo (the Sun) as well as Aphrodite (the Moon.) The Sun is masculine energy whereas the Moon is feminine. In shamanism, dolphin personifies balance, harmony, playfulness, and love. It teaches us to connect to our emotions and not be afraid to swim in the depths of them. The 2 of Cups embodies that notion, because it is about two people emotionally open enough to connect on a deep, meaningful level.

It corresponds astrologically to Venus in the 1st Decan of Cancer. In regards to the Quabalah Tree of Life, it is Chokmah through Water.

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Ace of Cups

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“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

The Ace of Cups is the seed of the suit of the Cups. It represents new beginnings, emotional openness, renewed emotion, an outpouring of love, or an emotional offering. This card shows up when there are no obstacles in the way. There are no emotional blocks within the person or situation. Everything just flows.

Cups represent emotions. When the Ace of Cups shows up, it is telling us that we are ready to give and receive love.  We are not held back by our past hurts. Whatever we’ve been through that wounded and temporarily closed our hearts is over, and now we are diving into the fresh waters of unlimited emotional possibility.

The Ace of Cups tells us to live in the moment of that refreshed emotion, as if we are playing in a fountain or letting a waterfall cool us down on a blistering summer day. Moments of emotional bliss are what make our lives beautiful and rewarding: It’s a kiss on our cheek from our mother, a hug from our best friend, or a passionate embrace with our lover. The Ace of Cups symbolizes that feeling of love in that perfect moment. It is powerful, because it is pure emotion and connects us to our hearts. It is so special that nothing comes close to duplicating it.

Regarding the Thoth version of this card, my tarot teacher observed that the golden cup looks like a woman holding her hips. There is an element of femininity and beauty to the card. It’s as if a woman is letting her true emotional self shine through. The Divine light that pours out of her is love pulled from the depths of her soul. This light creates an intricate web of positive energy, which surrounds the chalice as it sends out waves of love.  Love is healing. Love is a blessing. Love transforms.

Astrologically, it corresponds to the water signs (e.g. Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio.) In regards to timing questions, it would point to either of these three signs. In the Quabalah Tree of Life, it is Kether through Water.

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The Devil Card: Capricorn

“Never let go of that fiery sadness called desire.” ~ Patti Smith

Since we are now in Capricorn, I wanted to take some time and talk about The Devil card. The Devil card corresponds to Capricorn, which is an earth sign in astrology. The Devil card gets a bad rap. People see it as a dark, evil card, but for a second, let’s look at the brighter side of this card.

This card represents Pan, the Greek God, who was the god of shepherds and flocks. He is depicted as part man, part goat. He dances, plays his pipe, and frolics with nymphs. He stands for our basest instincts.

In the Thoth, The Devil card has a sexual connotation. If you look closely at the imagery, you can see a phallus and testicles. The figures you see inside the testicles, can be many things. But in a positive light, I see them as our ideas. The Devil card to me represents intentions or the seeds you plant during the course of a year. It symbolizes our thoughts, creativity, and the desires of our flesh and souls.

The beginning of the year is the perfect time to plant these seeds, to motivate ourselves, and to follow our natural instincts. The Devil card does not judge: Desire is desire, whether it’s a positive or negative one. And lust comes in many forms. Sometimes the passion we feel toward somebody or something leads us to satiety. Sometimes it leads us to destruction. The Devil card is telling us we must take that chance to truly experience life.

Wishing Upon a Star

One of my favorite tarot cards is The Star. A few months ago, I took a tarot class with a highly esteemed intuitive who had been reading cards for years and years. She said that The Star is one of the most optimistic cards in the deck. It’s a sign of hope, that if bad things are happening now, good things will be coming in the near future. This card is about “wishing upon a star.” What are your hopes and dreams? Where will the future take you?

I also see this representing a person’s spirituality. This is about opening yourself up to the spiritual world and the Light. It’s about seeing the beauty of the world around you and always knowing that whatever chaos is taking place in your daily life will soon be replaced by something better. With chaos, comes change. The rain must fall before a rainbow appears. The darkness must cover the sky before a star appears.
The Star is HOPE. When you receive this card in a reading, you can be sure that life will be changing for the better. It’s a beautiful card symbolizing that the world is truly yours. It all depends on what you do with it.