Myths and the Truths of the Twin Flame Reunion

Written  By Monique Colette

Twin Flame Reunion

A twin flame is best described as a spiritual connection between two souls. Each twin has their own set of lessons and karma they must face. A twin flame reunion is Divinely orchestrated. This sacred meeting cannot be forced or manifested. It happens when it happens, and it may not happen in this lifetime. You will meet your twin flame when it is the right time for you both. A spiritual relationship can be challenging and may bring up wounds in each partner. There is nothing light and fluffy about these connections. However, each Divine connection is unique. It depends on the energy, lessons, and karma for each twin.

Myths

  1. Not all twins meet and stay together:  This may not be the lifetime where they have a long-term relationship. They may have other soul contracts and karmic relationships that take priority of being together romantically.
  2. Not all twins separate then reunite:  Many times they separate because the energies don’t mesh, and they don’t come back together again in this lifetime.  It happens. Regardless of what you’ve read on other websites, it’s not the end of the world. Each can have rewarding relationships with soulmates and live joyous and fulfilling lives apart.
  3. Not all twin flame relationships are romantic: Some twins are more like family members and friends than lovers and partners. Some come together as business partners. Every twin flame connection is unique.
  4. If you don’t choose to be with your twin, you will be punished by the Universe or meant to suffer: No, that’s not how it works. If you or your twin choose not to be with the other, you will not be punished or forced to be alone for the rest of your lives. You each have the freedom to choose a romantic relationship. It may be too intense or painful for either of you. If it is, you have to do what’s best for you and your path. A twin flame relationship can be agonizing since it brings up so many subconscious wounds to the surface.
  5. If your twin doesn’t want to be with you, you will never be happy or in another relationship:  Hell to the no. Once you are open to it and ready, you will meet other soul connections/loving partners who will open up new worlds of love and appreciation. You will never forget your twin, but you will not pine for them or miss them romantically because you will be so fulfilled with self-love and the love of your partner. I have worked with many clients who thought they would never meet another partner after meeting their twin and they are now happily in love, living their best lives with their significant others. The fairy tale does not end after a twin flame relationship fails to launch.

Truths

  1. The twin flame connection is all about energy: If the energy of you two combined is balanced, the relationship will run smoothly. Everything will flow. There will be zero to few separations, and they will only be short-term. If the energy of the connection is unbalanced, one person’s energy is heavy (not grounded) and the other person’s is light (grounded), they will separate until the energy balances again.
  2. Reunion after separation is possible: Focus on your healing, opening your heart, balancing your chakras, grounding yourself, pouring love into yourself. Express gratitude with what you already have to attract more blessings into your life. Stop worrying what they’re doing. Be a little selfish. Pamper yourself. Stop stalking their social media. Stop reading about twin flames. Stop posting on twin flame message boards. Stop trying to figure it all out because you’ll drive yourself insane. Shut off your computer/phone. Take a walk. Smell the flowers. Hang out with your loved ones. DO YOU. Happiness and inner balance creates opportunity for reunion. BE HAPPY. When you are happy, you are vibrating in the energy of joy and love. That’s when amazing things happen. Stop waiting for reunion. Start living again.
  3. Very few people in your life are going to have any idea what you’re going through: Don’t try to explain your connection or try to convince them. It’s only going to cause you heartache and frustration. You don’t need anybody’s opinion on your relationship or the feelings you have for this person. Your family and friends are going to think you’re delusional when you tell them you’ve seen X’s name 20 times that day. Find a spiritual mentor to guide you, somebody you feel comfortable discussing personal things.
  4. This experience may make you feel like you’re going crazy: BALANCE YOUR ENERGY. Meditate, exercise, practice yoga, and create a daily spiritual ritual/practice for yourself so you can connect to Spirit. The more connected to the Divine you are, the more balanced and at peace you will feel. Spend time in nature. The earth connects and grounds us. If you are feeling anxious or out of sorts, place your hands on a tree, close your eyes and tune in. Feel that strong, steady energy of the tree rooting you to the ground. Take walks, hike, visit the ocean and dip your toes in the sand, or plant some flowers around your house. Keep yourself as balanced as possible because the energy of the connection can throw you off balance quickly.
  5. The only way through is forward:  Even when you are feeling your worst, you have to keep going. Power through. Do not think about the past. Keep moving on. The past has no hold on you. Let it go. Stay in the present. If you are separated from your twin flame, do not dwell on the separation or whatever led you to break up in the first place. Pick yourself up and tell yourself that life is going to get better. Work with the Law of Attraction to manifest the life you want. Visualize balance and healing. Envision a life of love and abundance. As the Great Gatsby says “My life has got to be like this. It’s got to keep going up.” And it will, if you allow it. You can manifest the life you desire. If you dwell on despair and disappointment, that is what the Universe will give you. If you focus your attention on what is going well in your life and all the blessings, you will attract more. Push forward, release the past, and imagine your perfect life. Write down everything you want in a journal. Be clear. Be specific. Then step back and allow the Universe to create this for you in the way that it needs to, not necessarily in the way you imagined. Let it do all the work.

If you are currently dealing with a twin flame connection and need help navigating it, book a Twin Flame Connection Reading or Energy Balancing Session with us here:  http://awakenedqueen.com/twin-flame-connection/

We are here to help you with whatever you are dealing with.  Find out if reconnection is possible or how you can move on. We can guide you in any situation, no matter how difficult and complex it may seem.

Why They Walk Away From Love

This is a question I hear all the time: Why do people walk away from love? It doesn’t make any sense. How could a soul connection love you one minute, then just walk away? Who doesn’t want love?

There are several reasons for this. Love can be terrifying. Love can come on too fast and leave the person feeling vulnerable and powerless. Love can bring out feelings of unworthiness, especially when the person has difficulty loving him/herself. The person who is walking away may have had a dysfunctional family who didn’t show them love, so they don’t know what love feels like. Love doesn’t feel comfortable. It doesn’t feel like home. Teal Swan goes into great detail about this phenomenon. Since they grew up in a love-starved environment, that’s ultimately what makes them feel secure.

A woman may have grown up with a emotionally distant father. She meets a man who falls head over heels with her. She loves him too, but because she’s not used to that feeling, she only allows herself to love him so much. He can feel that emotional distance. He fears he loves her more than she does. And because of this, he pushes the relationship onto her. It’s overwhelming. She doesn’t know how to handle it. She continues to distance herself. He pushes more. She runs. He is devastated. He wonders why she ran from the love.

All his life, he has had to push his love onto other people. He has never felt loved. He fears of being abandoned. It’s an issue he’s had since he was a child, when his parents divorced. The trauma of a divorce at a young age has scarred him. He didn’t feel emotionally safe, and that carried over into adulthood.

They mirror each other’s fears. Through their brief relationship, they are forced to face their demons. She fears love. He fears abandonment. He pushes. She pulls away. It’s an energetic dance. The energy is unbalanced between them. Because of this, they separate. They must deal with their issues separately, so they can heal and balance themselves. The relationship is over. But their spiritual connection is as strong as ever.

The man is left, feeling abandoned and devastated, mourning the end of a relationship. This is his fear. This is what he must push through to heal in this lifetime.

The woman feels terrible and guilty. She did not want to hurt him, but he came on too strong. She fears that all her future relationships will end because she can’t accept love. This is her fear. This is the obstacle she must overcome in order to heal in this lifetime.

So, yes, she walked away from love, but she only did it so she could heal that fear. He should not take it personally, but he does. His abandonment brings up feelings of unworthiness. He must heal this as well. He must learn to love himself and feel whole, even though he is without her. This is his lesson.

She must learn to love herself and feel whole as well, but she must also learn accept love from other people without feeling overwhelmed and fearful. This is her lesson.

They must learn to love themselves and find happiness from within. And they are unable to do this together.  They must not blame each other or themselves for any of this. They met to heal each other’s fears. This was the purpose of their union. Even though the relationship is over, the transformation of their lives begins.  This is what they are meant to do. Everything has happened for a reason.

And this is very important: The lessons must be learned and the fears healed before they are able to make the choice to have the relationship once again. No amount of calling, pining over the other, waiting, crying, blaming, resenting, hating, or begging will bring that relationship back until the lessons and healing are complete. But it has to be BOTH people, not just one. If you learn a lesson, and the other does not, you won’t have the chance of having a relationship.

If and when BOTH people achieve their goals, the energies between the two souls balance and they are drawn back together and given a choice to have the relationship again. It’s a CHOICE. It’s left to free will. It is not Spirit-driven. It is a choice between two people living in the material world, not two souls in the spiritual one. That is why some come back together and have a relationship again and others do not.

I know people who are with their soul mates or Twin Flames, as well as ones who were given the option, but for whatever reason, they decided not to have a relationship. Each group has the same thing in common: They are happy with their choices. Do not believe the tired, outdated theory that the people who have met their soul mates or Twin Flames and have decided not have a relationship with them are miserable. They are all at peace. They have healed and learned their lessons, and they realized the relationship was not the reason for their happiness: they were.

A Recipe to Lift Your Spirits

“Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.” – Carl Jung

The holidays are approaching: It can be a depressing time for many of us. This time of year brings out our feelings. We reflect on the year, on our lives, our love lives. And not every year is going to be wonderful. Some years are better than others.

We may be dealing loneliness, separations from the ones we still love, or we may be experiencing the feeling that time was wasted. The holidays signal the end of a year. Maybe we feel as if we could have done better, made more of an effort at some point during the year, and we didn’t. Instead we let time slip by us.

Through our perception, it’s almost the New Year, and we have little to show for it; we didn’t accomplish what we had hoped. These feelings are normal, and they happen to the best of us. We are our own worst critics. We mustn’t be too hard on ourselves.

Over the past two years, I’ve struggled with depression. I know the torment and the hopelessness that some of you may be feeling. And through trial and error, I have tried many methods to heal and energize myself. I was able to pull myself out of the abyss. I want to share with you my magickal recipe to lift your spirits.

You’re going to laugh, but this advice was given to me by my spiritual mentor, and it worked! Buy a few items for your home in the color, crimson. 


It’s a deep red. You need bursts of crimson in your surroundings to pull you out of the darkness. There is something about the color that will invigorate you. My cat died last year: I remember staring up at my crimson-colored Chinese lanterns, still feeling somewhat alive. I knew the crimson was having a positive effect. It was helping me through a dismal time.
The next step is you will need to buy a yellow candle. You will think of this candle’s energy as “sunshine” and “happiness.” The energy of the candle will fill your home. Burn it all the way down. If you need to leave the house, snuff it out, do not blow it out, then relight it when you get home. It can be any size candle. 
Buy a hematite bracelet, ring, or necklace. You want the stone close to your skin. It will help energetically ground you and keep you emotionally balanced. The Egyptians called it the “worry stone.” When we’re filled with anxiety, depressed, fearful, our energy becomes unbalanced. Hematite is cheap. You can buy a bracelet like this. 

Here is some more information on hematite.

I am offering these suggestions, because I know they work. If you do try these methods or have any, post your experiences in the comments.