Let’s Dance!

 

Written By Jameca McGhee

Have you ever tangoed before? It’s such a beautiful dance. You’re either the lead or you’re following. I love following because I like to get spun around, and throw my hands in the air. It’s such a romantic feeling. You can get carried away in letting yourself feel free. The exact opposite of what it feels like to be in a relationship to many people, myself included.

I’m naturally very private. I don’t like to open up, you have to pry information out of me. Once I’m very, VERY comfortable with you, I’ll let you in. Some people are open and will tell you their life story within 5 minutes of meeting you. I always find an escape route immediately when I meet a “sharer.”

I’m also an empath, meaning I feel things very deeply. Including energy that other people give off. Sometimes it’s hard to differentiate my own energy from the energy I’m attracting. I end up feeling drained and frustrated. I’ve learned over the years how to balance this by working on my chakras.

If you’re not familiar with your chakras, chile, wyd? From the 3rd eye up, I’m goodt! Those lower chakras get me every time. I always start with the root, because that’s my biggest struggle. Then I work my way up to the throat, and eventually to the crown. The chakra I’m most focused on now is the sacral, which focuses on creativity, sexuality/sensuality, and feelings. I’ve learned that empaths feel through their “gut,” hence the term gut feeling.

I’ve been taking belly dancing classes to get in touch with my sacral chakra. I would recommend anyone wanting to get in touch with their femininity to take belly dancing classes, especially women who’ve recently given birth, and trans women. I’ve learned to let down my guard with myself, which is honestly what’s most important. I allow myself to feel. I look at myself in the mirror while I’m dancing and I smile, usually thinking, damn I look goodt!

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Myths and the Truths of the Twin Flame Reunion

Written  By Monique Colette

Twin Flame Reunion

A twin flame is best described as a spiritual connection between two souls. Each twin has their own set of lessons and karma they must face. A twin flame reunion is Divinely orchestrated. This sacred meeting cannot be forced or manifested. It happens when it happens, and it may not happen in this lifetime. You will meet your twin flame when it is the right time for you both. A spiritual relationship can be challenging and may bring up wounds in each partner. There is nothing light and fluffy about these connections. However, each Divine connection is unique. It depends on the energy, lessons, and karma for each twin.

Myths

  1. Not all twins meet and stay together:  This may not be the lifetime where they have a long-term relationship. They may have other soul contracts and karmic relationships that take priority of being together romantically.
  2. Not all twins separate then reunite:  Many times they separate because the energies don’t mesh, and they don’t come back together again in this lifetime.  It happens. Regardless of what you’ve read on other websites, it’s not the end of the world. Each can have rewarding relationships with soulmates and live joyous and fulfilling lives apart.
  3. Not all twin flame relationships are romantic: Some twins are more like family members and friends than lovers and partners. Some come together as business partners. Every twin flame connection is unique.
  4. If you don’t choose to be with your twin, you will be punished by the Universe or meant to suffer: No, that’s not how it works. If you or your twin choose not to be with the other, you will not be punished or forced to be alone for the rest of your lives. You each have the freedom to choose a romantic relationship. It may be too intense or painful for either of you. If it is, you have to do what’s best for you and your path. A twin flame relationship can be agonizing since it brings up so many subconscious wounds to the surface.
  5. If your twin doesn’t want to be with you, you will never be happy or in another relationship:  Hell to the no. Once you are open to it and ready, you will meet other soul connections/loving partners who will open up new worlds of love and appreciation. You will never forget your twin, but you will not pine for them or miss them romantically because you will be so fulfilled with self-love and the love of your partner. I have worked with many clients who thought they would never meet another partner after meeting their twin and they are now happily in love, living their best lives with their significant others. The fairy tale does not end after a twin flame relationship fails to launch.

Truths

  1. The twin flame connection is all about energy: If the energy of you two combined is balanced, the relationship will run smoothly. Everything will flow. There will be zero to few separations, and they will only be short-term. If the energy of the connection is unbalanced, one person’s energy is heavy (not grounded) and the other person’s is light (grounded), they will separate until the energy balances again.
  2. Reunion after separation is possible: Focus on your healing, opening your heart, balancing your chakras, grounding yourself, pouring love into yourself. Express gratitude with what you already have to attract more blessings into your life. Stop worrying what they’re doing. Be a little selfish. Pamper yourself. Stop stalking their social media. Stop reading about twin flames. Stop posting on twin flame message boards. Stop trying to figure it all out because you’ll drive yourself insane. Shut off your computer/phone. Take a walk. Smell the flowers. Hang out with your loved ones. DO YOU. Happiness and inner balance creates opportunity for reunion. BE HAPPY. When you are happy, you are vibrating in the energy of joy and love. That’s when amazing things happen. Stop waiting for reunion. Start living again.
  3. Very few people in your life are going to have any idea what you’re going through: Don’t try to explain your connection or try to convince them. It’s only going to cause you heartache and frustration. You don’t need anybody’s opinion on your relationship or the feelings you have for this person. Your family and friends are going to think you’re delusional when you tell them you’ve seen X’s name 20 times that day. Find a spiritual mentor to guide you, somebody you feel comfortable discussing personal things.
  4. This experience may make you feel like you’re going crazy: BALANCE YOUR ENERGY. Meditate, exercise, practice yoga, and create a daily spiritual ritual/practice for yourself so you can connect to Spirit. The more connected to the Divine you are, the more balanced and at peace you will feel. Spend time in nature. The earth connects and grounds us. If you are feeling anxious or out of sorts, place your hands on a tree, close your eyes and tune in. Feel that strong, steady energy of the tree rooting you to the ground. Take walks, hike, visit the ocean and dip your toes in the sand, or plant some flowers around your house. Keep yourself as balanced as possible because the energy of the connection can throw you off balance quickly.
  5. The only way through is forward:  Even when you are feeling your worst, you have to keep going. Power through. Do not think about the past. Keep moving on. The past has no hold on you. Let it go. Stay in the present. If you are separated from your twin flame, do not dwell on the separation or whatever led you to break up in the first place. Pick yourself up and tell yourself that life is going to get better. Work with the Law of Attraction to manifest the life you want. Visualize balance and healing. Envision a life of love and abundance. As the Great Gatsby says “My life has got to be like this. It’s got to keep going up.” And it will, if you allow it. You can manifest the life you desire. If you dwell on despair and disappointment, that is what the Universe will give you. If you focus your attention on what is going well in your life and all the blessings, you will attract more. Push forward, release the past, and imagine your perfect life. Write down everything you want in a journal. Be clear. Be specific. Then step back and allow the Universe to create this for you in the way that it needs to, not necessarily in the way you imagined. Let it do all the work.

If you are currently dealing with a twin flame connection and need help navigating it, book a Twin Flame Connection Reading or Energy Balancing Session with us here:  http://awakenedqueen.com/twin-flame-connection/

We are here to help you with whatever you are dealing with.  Find out if reconnection is possible or how you can move on. We can guide you in any situation, no matter how difficult and complex it may seem.

Twin Flame Pain

TWIN FLAME PAIN

Every soul connection that comes into our lives brings with them their own set of lessons and healing. They reflect back to us the shadow aspects and wounds that we would rather avoid. They show up to wake us up, to make us face what we’ve been avoiding. They mirror deep karmic pain that we have made a soul contract to heal in this lifetime. We have suffered many lifetimes, carrying this pain with us. Sometimes we don’t even realize it’s there. It’s buried so deep in our subconscious, in our souls, that we have no idea that we are burdened by such darkness.

That is until we meet a Twin Flame (I prefer to call them soul connections), and all that karmic pain rises to the surface. Suddenly, our past wounds, the heartbreaks and childhood wounds feel so deep, it’s as if somebody has carved us open with a dagger. We feel vulnerable and exposed. We think “How is it possible that this person, this soulmate, I have such strong, loving feelings for can make me feel so bad? How can they cause me so much pain without even doing anything? How can they make me feel so afraid and bring out such intense, uncomfortable feelings?”

These people come into our lives and trigger our deepest pain to heal us and clear these blockages that keep us from truly loving ourselves. Because until we love ourselves, we can’t give love to the full capacity that we are meant to. Soul connections push our buttons. They pull away when we need them the most; they take away their love when it’s all we’ve ever feared; they abandon us at our weakest moments; they make us face ourselves. They strip away all our distractions, so we finally look into the mirror once and for all. For the firs time, we see all our flaws, weaknesses, insecurities, all the things that we have hidden our entire lives. This person walks into our life, then walks out. And we are left feeling abandoned, naked, and torn apart. We wonder why it hurts so bad, why we feel so lost and afraid to pick up the pieces of our lives and start over. We don’t have the strength to begin again. It’s been drained from our bloodstream.

Their spiritual gift to us is to crack us open, so we may heal and shatter us, so we can rebuild ourselves into more balanced, stronger people. As Rumi says “The wound is where the Light enters you.” Like a phoenix rising from ashes, we transform into powerful and magical beings.  As long as we surrender to this process, this will happen. If we fight what the Universe is trying to do for us, we will only delay our progress. For some, it takes months. For others, such as myself, it takes years. True surrender is realizing that the connection is all about you and not them. It’s not about losing a piece of yourself, because you’re already whole. It’s not about them losing you either, because they are whole as well. Soul connections are not based on need.

Need creates imbalance. Between partners, when there is an imbalance, the connection cannot flow and the two have to separate. They repel each other energetically. That is why partners may get together, then have separations as time goes on, because imbalances and energetic blockages come up for people. Needing love repels love. It’s pushy energy that is based on what the Law of Attraction theory would call “lack.” In a soul connection union, there needs to be a balance between the feminine, the yin, and the masculine, the yang. Once it’s out of balance, problems arise. One partner may feel the need to separate from the other until the energy re-balances. Healing must take place before this can happen.

Codependency is an issue that many soul connections deal with. It is sometimes the greatest lesson for us to learn. Learning to love without need, without desperation, without pain, without a constant feeling of longing is what we experience during a separation. Regardless if they ever come back into our lives, we are taught the lesson to love in a healthy way. In order to fill somebody’s emotional cup, we must fill our own first. Our immense, flowing love for a partner can be showered upon them like a waterfall as long as we keep a reservoir within ourselves. We can only love them as much as we love ourselves. And we can never give more to them than we would give to ourselves in order to keep the scales balanced. Once the energy of a connection balances, the tremendous power of love reveals itself.

If you are currently dealing with a twin flame connection and need help navigating it, book a Twin Flame Connection Reading or Energy Balancing Session with us here:  http://awakenedqueen.com/twin-flame-connection/

We are here to help you with whatever you are dealing with.  Find out if reconnection is possible or how you can move on. We can guide you in any situation, no matter how difficult and complex it may seem.

Going Through the Twin Flame Journey to the Other Side: Part 1

Everybody who is dealing with a Twin Flame connection wants to know how you can not only survive, but make it through where you find peace and happiness. The most important thing I want you to know is: IT CAN BE DONE. Not only am I living proof of it, but I receive several e-mails a day from people all over the world, sharing their personal Twin Flame experiences with me and how they made it through them. I hear incredible stories of devastating loss, Dark Night of the Souls, spiritual awakenings, healing, perseverance, fearlessness, and fighting through Ego and old emotional wounds to find a rainbow at the end of a storm.

There are people who argue with me that you can’t have a relationship with another man/woman after a Twin Flame connection. These people are misguided. They let the connection win. Now they’re stuck. They don’t know how to deal with it anymore, so they stay chained to it. Or they tell me that twins always come back together. I see it everywhere: “Eventually the twins reunite.” When? In this lifetime or the next? Who says? Where is this information coming from? It sounds good. But I’ve seen a lot of suffering Twin Flames and it doesn’t look like their partners are coming back any time soon or ever.

Have they ever considered that maybe the Universe does not want them together in this lifetime? What if they’re never going to reconnect? What then? Should they not open their hearts to any other romantic partners and continue to wait for their twin to come back? These people have never moved on from these broken relationships. The journey defeated them. A physical relationship and a spiritual connection are two different entities. They may come together to form a beautiful, harmonious union, but they also may conflict with each other.

If you think it’s going to be easy to find happiness, think again. The process is a BITCH. It will leave you in a pool or your tears, aching because your soul is being torn apart, facing your shadow self, fighting your Ego, looking inward and seeing all your flaws, literally praying to God to make the pain go away, begging Him to release you from the connection’s grip on you, and feeling like you’re dying every day. These people have found peace and happiness: Some are living separated from their twins; some have come back together and are in loving relationships with their twins. Everybody’s story is different.

 I would never judge somebody for not choosing to be with their twin. And I would never judge a person for choosing to be with their twin no matter how difficult the relationship. It’s free will. We are the masters of our own happiness and lives. Recently, I have discovered this is quite a polarizing topic within the Twin Flame community. There are many people who believe that once you meet a Twin Flame, you either end up together or you remain separated and are never capable of loving another man/woman.

 I have read countless blog posts from people whose twin has chosen not to have a physical relationship with them or won’t even talk to them. The other twin feels rejection, abandonment, and an immense loss while their twins find new partners, have new experiences, marry other soul connections, and start families. They seem to go on with their lives as if nothing had happened. Meanwhile the other twin is devastated, feeling abandoned and rejected. “How is this even possible?  We are meant to be together. He/she’s the other half of me. He/she is my one and only soul mate. How could he/she just abandon me?” they think to themselves.

 These scenarios happen all the time. It’s sad and it may not make sense to the people who are dealing with these situations, but it’s reality. We’re not meant to understand it. A soul connection is a special bond you have with another member of your soul family. Our Twin Flames are the soul mates with whom we have had the most lives, with whom we have the most karma, the ones who teach us the most and the hardest lessons; they are the ones who push our buttons the most; they are the ones who cause us the most pain; they are the ones who reflect all our karmic issues and emotional wounds; they are the ones who teach us how to love and be loved; they are the ones who clear away the veil so that we see the true beauty and magnificence of the Universe, BUT they are not necessarily the ones we are meant to marry, have 2.5 children, a Golden Retriever, the house with the white picket house in the suburbs. Our purpose for meeting them goes far beyond a physical relationship.

Unfortunately, it doesn’t always work the way we want it to. The Universe has a plan for us, and it’s not always what we had designed in our heads like the architects of life we try to be (myself included.) If we just trust in the Universe, things would go a lot smoother for us. When we tightly hold onto the reins of our lives, the energy stagnates. Nothing moves. Nothing happens. We wait and wait, and nothing changes in our lives. It’s when we surrender and let go and let the Universe do what it does best is when wonderful things manifest in our lives.

Not all Twin Flame couples are meant to be together. Some Twin Flame connections are not romantic at all! What happens when we love somebody more than we have ever loved anybody in our entire lives and suddenly they are ripped away from us, never to return? Where do we go from there? What do we do next? Do we wait for them to see the light and come back? We have two options: We can shrivel up, crawl into a ball and die, or we can fight our way through the loss, the pain, the misery, the fear, the depression, the anxiety, and do everything in our power to heal and make it to the other side from hell to paradise. Can it be done? YES! A million times yes. Spirit wants us to heal. Spirit wants us to find happiness. Spirit wants us to find love again with another soul connection from your soul family.

But the question is: WHAT DO WE WANT? This is our choice. Do we choose happiness, or do we choose imprisonment? Do we choose opening our hearts, living life out loud, experiencing every wonderful thing we wish to experience, or do we choose waiting, living in the past, closing our hearts, drowning in disappointment, heartbreak, and never moving on? I can assure you the journey is one of the most difficult emotional processes we can go through: It’s a battle we fight, because we know we have to; we know the alternative is no way to live. We see the people who are still suffering decades later, because they gave up fighting, and we vow that we will never let that happen to us.

We are fighters. We make it through to the other side of the journey because we believe that we can. And let’s say we have been suffering for decades, and we can’t seem to get over him/her, it’s NEVER too late. I promise when we decide to fight for our happiness, Spirit will do everything in its power to help us achieve that goal. That was my experience, and from what I’ve heard from others, it’s theirs as well. Spirit wants us to have abundance and joy. These connections bring us to the brink of madness and destruction, so we’ll finally stop trying to control the situation and let the Universe take over. In many cases, we have to hit rock bottom to reach the stage called “Surrender.”

Surrender is allowing life to unfold as its meant to without us acting like backseat drivers telling the Universe where it needs to take us and what routes it should take to get there. If you want to hang onto this connection, you want to wait, you’ll be waiting forever. A watched pot never boils. When you walk away from the pot, that’s when it starts boiling. Let go of the outcome. Let go of what you think should be. The Twin Flame couples who have separated and reconnected both reached the stage of Surrender. That’s why the reconnection occurred. I have an expression: “Your soul mate will never come back to you when you’re sobbing in a corner with tears and snot running down your face. (If it’s meant to happen) your soul mate will come back to you when you’re at your happiest and you don’t NEED anybody to make you happy.”

Years ago, a soul mate of mine left me. I tried calling him, and he would not even talk to me. I called once, and some girl he was dating answered the phone. I was devastated. He wanted nothing to do with me. My heart was shattered. One year later, I decided to go on a date, then we came back to my apartment to hang out, and guess who showed up at my door to say “Hi.” I could not make that story up if I tried, it was so ridiculous. The moral of the story is when I was at my happiest and was putting my energy elsewhere, that’s when this dipshit soul mate of mine reappeared.

Do you want something to happen? Get busy and live life, with or without your twin. And try to have as much fun as you can doing it. The connection is like an elastic band. When we push and chase, the band stretches farther away from us; when we pull away and put our energy elsewhere, the rubber band flicks back.

 Some reconnections never happen. Some do. Regardless, we have to keep on living. We must become warriors and push on even when it hurts, even when we think we can’t go on any further. If we keep going and fight our way through the journey, the other side of paradise is waiting for us. If we want it badly enough, we can make it happen. The battle can be fought: We can be victorious in the end.