Do you want to manifest a soulmate? I have three words for you: WRITE A LIST. It’s that simple! So what does this list entail exactly? Be clear and specific. The Universe takes your words literally, almost to a ridiculous degree. If you ask for a man who will love you, you may want to specify that he’s emotionally and physically available, otherwise you could end up with a man with a girlfriend, or somebody who loves you, but for whatever reason, is unable to be with you. Details, details, details, and lots of them! Make your dreams become a reality.
Visualize this person in your head and describe their characteristics. Who is this person? What do they look like? What kind of personality do they have? Most importantly, describe the relationship you wish to have with this person. Are you just looking for a casual dating situation? Do you want to live together? Do you want to get married? Do you want to have children?
What are you looking for? Envision it, then write it in a journal or a piece of paper. Close the journal or set the paper in a safe place and this is important: FORGET ABOUT IT. Let it go. This is the Law of Detachment. Let the Universe do its work. Don’t worry about when and where you’re going to meet them. Just enjoy your life. Trust that it will happen.
Ask yourself “What does the word soul mate mean to me?” Is your soul mate a compatible romantic partner, or is it a strong spiritual connection with somebody with whom you’ve shared past lives and have karma to balance? Sure, it can be both, but sometimes it’s not. A true soul mate can be one of the most challenging relationships of your life.
Lisa Frideborg Lloyd, a tarot reader and blogger, wrote a wonderful post listing the reasons why it’s best not to manifest a soul mate relationship. As somebody who has manifested soul mate relationships by writing lists in my journal, all I have to say is be careful what you wish for. Soul mate relationships can be transformative, but hell on earth. These connections are best for spiritual growth, but can be quite difficult if both partners have unhealed issues.
Instead of using labels while creating your list, e.g., soul mate or Twin Flame, focus on the person you want to meet and the relationship you wish to have with them. The rest will fall into place. Soul mate relationships can be created with the right person. You don’t need to have had past lifetimes together. It’s not necessary. You want to manifest somebody with whom you are emotionally and physically compatible and share the same goals.
When you compile your list, write as it’s already happening. Everything should be in the present tense. E.g., “She has long, flowing blonde hair. She is loving. She is nurturing. She is emotionally ready for a long-term relationship. We are extremely happy together. We are married.” This is a powerful way to manifest.
Arielle Ford, the acclaimed soul mate expert, who wrote “The Soulmate Secret”, shares a story about the woman who manifested her soul mate through crayons:
“Her name is Gayle and many years ago she was advised by her astrologer to put her intentions for a soul mate into the world by coloring a mandala. She took a black and white mandala and a rainbow of multi-colored pencils and began declaring her intentions while she colored in a space on the mandala. She asked for things like: finding the perfect spiritual friend and lover to go through life with; a man who is kind to animals; someone who would appreciate her sense of humor; a man who would be accepting and open to her spiritual quest. For each intention she used a different color until the entire mandala became a multi-hued Technicolor testimony to the qualities she desired in her future partner. Within weeks of doing this she met her soul mate and they have now been married for more than twenty years.”
Manifesting a love partner is simple, but being ready to love and accept love without fear can be difficult. You have to ask yourself before you write your list the following questions:
“Do I love myself?”
“Could I love myself more?”
“What could I do to show myself love?”
“Have I let go of my past hurts from relationships?”
“Have I forgiven my ex-partners for their mistakes?”
“Have I forgiven myself for mistakes in my relationships?”
“Am I ready to love and be loved?”
“Our barriers to love are rarely consciously chosen. They are our efforts to protect the places where the heart is bruised. Somewhere, sometime, we felt as though an open heart caused us pain or humiliation…we tried to build a fortress across our heart, to protect us from any cold assault.”
– “A Return to Love”, Marianne Williamson
If you fear love, you attract people who fear love. When you emanate love, all you do is attract love. And that is when your soul mate walks into your life.