March Tarotscopes By Nisha

The most important thing for you this month will be to have people around you who truly support the REAL YOU. But first you have to reveal it to them. You’re a go-getter and you’re constantly changing. We all are. So don’t hide that, from yourself or others. It feels like you’ve been suppressing your true desires for fear of how others or another will react. But in essence, those who care about you only want you to be happy, so there’s nothing to fear. Be yourself. And if that just so happens to be a person who wants to EXPLORE their options, then so be it.

Everyone is depending on you! No pressure, right? lol But you really are a role model and support system for so many. And this month it is going to be a responsibility of yours to be a guiding light for others. So, be sure to have your fail-safes in order, all the go-to’s you have that you utilize to re-fuel your powerhouse. And there’s no need to be stressed or nervous about your role, because it’s who you already are. It feels like this month you recognize your influence though and arm yourself in advance to be at maximum strength and service.

The answers you are looking for can be found in the past. And it feels like a pairing of your personal experiences along with historical or worldly events that have occurred as well. Top that off with additional assistance from your Guides and Ancestors and you will be equipped to take on any conundrum this month. You do not have to tackle things alone. You have ample aids to assist you, so work with them. Do not fear the emotional drain that can come with reminiscing. With the help of your Spirit Team, it feels like you will surely bypass it.

Hallelujah, right? You’ve been waiting for this month and what a relief it will be for you. I have to say, of course, there will be some residual feelings of doubt or regret lingering. But that’s natural and to be expected. Where your focus SHOULD be though is on the bright future that awaits you. Be proud of yourself! It takes so much courage to remove yourself from persons, places, and things that no longer serve you. So you’re truly ahead of the mold. Keep moving forward. You’re doing so well. And you’ll start to feel that long awaited breath of fresh air.

It can be uncomfortable when we’re going through personal transformations. Especially when we evolve into people who no longer vibrate on the same frequency of long time loves. But it’s necessary. For growth its necessary. This month is going to be you reestablishing a new tribe. You’re going to be redefining what it means to feel safe, secure, wanted, protected, valued… You’re going to rediscover what it means to BELONG.  And you will find it. You will. It will feel like you’ve found a new HOME.

Go for it! You’re so ready. Now you just need to do it! This month is really the beginning of a new era for you, where something happens that marks a milestone by which you frame past and future references. We don’t get many of these in our lifetime so how cool and exciting. This is your upgrade month. This is the month where you see and feel and know that you have leveled up. All you have to do is take that first step. And you’ll know what step that is when the time presents itself. Everything you need to succeed, you already have.

Talk about SIGNS, SYMBOLS & SYNCHRONICITIES! This month is all about that for you. It feels like things that I wouldn’t be able to describe. Like those “you had to be there” moments that are unbelievable and that would make anyone, including yourself, a true believer. What’s more amazing is that this is all happening as a result of your prayers and requests for guidance and your invitation to your Spirit Guides welcoming them into your lives. You’re going to feel so *special* and seen and heard this month.

This month feels like it’s all about PRIORITIES. It’s time to become clear about what it is that you want. So, yes, that will mean weighing your options and determining what’s more important to you, and what’s necessary.. And yes, that means that some things will stay and some things will go. But there’s no reason you have to think about these determinations with such finality because that will trip you up. Within the scope or mindframe of “now”, make your decisions. Because, remember, now really is all there is my love.

It may be time for you to slow down a little bit this month. And not because you’re doing too much. But in order to have more fun! You’re ruled by Jupiter and it’s in your blood to be full of that joyful energy. And in order for it to return you’re going to start to see this month that you need to get out there. This feels like perhaps taking a road trip or joining a larger group that also wants to do big things more up to your speed. Don’t deny yourself. It’s time to enjoy yourself! Do what makes you feel FREE and light as a feather.

So, there’s going to be this “all is lost” feeling this month. BUT THEN, as if by magick and the grace of God, all is saved and returned! This totally feels like a “Praise God, Thank God” moment. And that’s what’s going to define this month for you. That’s what you’re going to remember. So, hold tight.. Be strong.. You can do it.. All those encouraging phrases! It’s like that song “this is what you came for”. This is what you’ve asked for. And this month you’ll get a glimpse of all the glorious POSSIBILITIES.

What is it that you like to do? There seems to be this theme with a few of the signs this month that are calling attention to the more lighthearted part of living. Because things do actually happen in you favor. Miracles do exist and things do come through in the clutch. And just for you! This life isn’t about all work and no play. You aren’t only meant to ascend by way of strenuous labor. You can reach enlightenment by way of pure joy and pleasure as well. So, again, what is it that you like to do? What do you do just for yourself? How do you play? When do you forget the time? Where do you relax completely? This month you’ll begin to create that list for yourself for future reference.

It’s time for that word that many of you dislike: RESPONSIBILITY. I know, I know. But it’s ok. This month it’s necessary for you to buckle down and it really feels like it will be in terms of your finances–where you will be cutting expenses and only keeping the bare necessities. Think of this as temporary, but it really will begin to shape how you look at your money, your being wise about spending habits, and your being conscious about who it is you give your money to. You’re going to be investing in things that will last and choosing quality over quantity. So, nothing lavish or outlandish this month. (Unless your children’s children will be able to benefit from it.)

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Nisha’s February Tarotscopes

These are general readings for each Zodiac for the month of February using the Romance Angels Oracle deck. Be sure to read your Sun, Moon, and Rising sign for a more complete ‘scope.

AQUARIUS

Things may have felt a little stale before, but this month you are seeing others experience a rejuvenation in their life which inspires you to add some of those witnessed qualities to your own life. So, this month is about branching out and finding (or rather letting it find you) what lights your fire. What are you interested in? What do you like to do for fun? This isn’t the month to sit at home. Don’t be afraid to do what others perceive as a “couple” thing, alone.

PISCES

This month it feels like you are reinventing yourself. So it may be necessary for you to reintroduce yourself to those already in your life where you are updating them on who you now know the present you to be. It may also feel like some things are falling away because of this change, but really it is aligning you for the people, places, and things that match this new vibration of yours. Everything is right. Keep looking and moving forward.

ARIES

There are some doubts this month where you are needing to express your feelings–outwardly, to yourself, and perhaps even in heart-to-heart conversations with others or another. You are wanting reassurance that your desires are valid. Don’t hesitate or hold back voicing yourself. It is important that you be heard so that the energy can flow and not be suppressed for a later eruption.

TAURUS

Don’t throw in the towel just yet. Get clear about what your wants and needs are so that you can communicate them. You can’t expect others to automatically know what they are or aren’t doing, that you don’t like, if you don’t tell them. And don’t forget to be a little understanding, accommodating and empathetic. You too could be demonstrating behavior that needs some shifting as well.

GEMINI

You are entering a new arena this month that feels very exciting for you. Expect to meet many new people and to open up or share yourself with them too. It will be through these interactions that you will be able to become more familiar with yourself. You are wonderful at letting others be a mirror for you, so February is going to feel like you’re right at home. (An important date on the calendar will be marked this month!)

CANCER

You are finally allowing yourself to live that big picture life you’ve been imagining for so long. So, this month you are starting to do things for YOU. Others’ requests aren’t taking priority like they usually do. You’re doing what feels good and right to you, first. You’re prioritizing–making YOUR happiness the major priority, and it’s working out for you and everybody else in return. You’re seeing how only when you’re good can you then be good for others.

LEO

(This feels like actual wedding plans for some of you.) This month, you’ve found your complete match with something or someone–where you’re able to be yourself, you’re able to voice your desires, you’re able to listen and reciprocate others’ desires, you have freedom and independence…it feels really good. Further continue down this path you’ve already started upon and enjoy yourself! Lots of rewards in store for you this month.

VIRGO

So you have some expectations this month about how it is you see things going or would like them to go. This feels like meddling in the life of another about what you feel they should or shouldn’t be doing. Let them know that you are there for them, continue to love them and offer your support and remember that it is ultimately up to them. Rather than stress about what more you or they could be doing, pray for divine assistance and leave it in the hands of your Spirit Team and the Most High.

LIBRA

Of course, two cards popped out for you. This month you have to choose what it is you would like to pursue: work or romantic love. If you play your cards right, you may just need to balance the two without having to completely give up one or the other. But you like to go all in, so keep in mind, if need be and one has to go, which one means more to you in the grand scheme of things. Which one needs your attention most right now at this point in your journey?

SCORPIO

It may be necessary to take a step back from your commitments for the purpose of getting clear about where other people’s motives lie. There are some truth’s you need to uncover so that you can make better decisions about what direction you should be head in. Something about this feels like a shock but don’t let it harden you. Remember that you are strong and anything that happens now is only preparing you for a better tomorrow.

SAGITTARIUS

A Remedy to Stress & Anxiety for Each Zodiac Sign

Written By Nisha

Out of 21 votes, more than 75% of you on Twitter said that you’ve developed some form of anxiety or panic attacks within the past few years. And more than 20% of you said that you knew someone who had.  I’ve put together this little compilation to act as a quick reference for when you’re in a funk or on the edge.  Be sure to read your Sun, Moon, and Rising signs. And let me know if it resonates!

Aries: The best thing for you to do is a PHYSICAL ACTIVITY!  You naturally have a lot of fire and it’s easy for your energy to get pinned up if it isn’t exerted.  And rather than internalize it or take it out on others, take it out on the punching bag or the track or treadmill or yoga mat or the football or volleyball or hey, even sex, for the purposes of transmutation.  Whatever gets your heart beat up, do that!  Working up a sweat is especially good for you and your release.

Taurus: Your best friend is the WATER.  This is the perfect way for you to wind down without any effort necessary.  Because you’re an earth sign, water naturally puts you at ease–it’s your equal opposite.  So, drink water, go swimming, soak your feet in water, go get a pedicure, take a shower, run the water over your head, take a bath in the tub, go to the mattress department and lay on a water bed, buy a water bed lol.  This is your number one go-to for relaxation.

Gemini: This feels two-fold for you.  Lol butof course it does Mr & Miss Twins!!  Your zen seems to come from RAISING CONSCIOUSNESS.  And this will be in both giving and receiving and balancing the two.  The best example of this would be the group Reiki circles–where you’re able to solely achieve peace and heightened clarity and calm, while still being able to be apart of the group; Because the feeling is that you want to be connected and apart of something larger while still being able to be left unto yourself.  Group meditations or participating in collective spirituality functions would help you find your center and put you back at ease.

Cancer: You’re a homebody at heart so when you find yourself wound up or on edge your best bet would be ORDINARINESS. It feels like going to the very basics, so, a hot meal, a warm blanket, a soft pillow, a cool breeze.  In this way it doesn’t take much to make you feel better.  Something as effortless as walking or looking at the sky.  Sitting also feels very helpful.  The next time you’re feeling anxious, just have a seat. You’ll feel like yourself in no time. Turn off the tv, and the phone and the computer, open a window and keep it simple.

Leo: You’re another active one, like your Aries ally!  And what will help burn some of that innate energy is PARTNERSHIP.  And this feels something like Marco Polo or tag or playing some type of game where you get to engage with someone else and play off of their energy.  This does feel very one-on-one, so, perhaps with a closest friend or sparing partner who you know also likes contact sports or can relate with your experiences.

Virgo: So, your stress usually comes from feeling like things are disarray or out of order.  Naturally, you relax when you have CONTROL.  And that will mean doing those things that you absolutely know you’re an expert at.  Feeling that assured confidence without competition or having to prove yourself…automatic smile on your face!  What are you the best at?  Go do that.

Libra: Oh my yes.  This is your outlet…TRAVEL!  Going outside of your everyday norm automatically makes you feel so good.  You like change.  You like new.  And a lot of the time your frustration comes from when things have stayed the same for too long.  So, get going.  Plan a day trip.  Use different modes of transportation– bus, Ubër, train, walking… Do something different.  Change up your scenery and you’re good to go.

Scorpio: You are very much like your Taurean friends.  A lot of your stress comes from self-imposed stagnation.  You tend to think things are harder than they are or have to be.  WATER is your answer.  You must remember to go with the flow.  Flexibility is very key for you.  Being a water sign, you would think you would know this much better than your earthy peeps, but you can be quite stubborn.  It would be wise for you to have a go-to person in your life that models this easygoing behavior.  In stressful times look to this person.  How would they react?  What would they tell you to do?

Sagittarius: Believe it or not, GARDENING would be a beneficial hobby for you to take up.  You’re a natural visionary.  So, sometimes, your anxiety comes when you aren’t able to see the bigger picture or when you feel restricted in pursuing your goals.  Having a garden, however small, would help you to always see the progress you’re making.  You would readily be able to see something growing and something that you directly had a hand in creating and make manifest.  Instant gratification and reward!

Capricorn: You’re very funny.  You aren’t the most friendly of the bunch or social because you’re usually busy eyes deep in work.  And when you are mingling  it’s brief or for the purpose of furthering your personal pursuits. So, of course, your stress relieve would be in FRIENDLINESS.   Try smiling at a stranger.  (Not a potential predator just a stranger, choose wisely lol.)  Ask someone their name and strike up a conversation.  Do something nice for someone for no reason.  Your anxiety can come from staying in your bubble too long.  In a tense moment it would really help for you to break away from your agenda and engage the people you share the world with.  Look up icebreakers.  Start there.

Aquarius: You are similar to your Capricorn friends.  You need to take a break from sharing your expansive knowledge and learn INTIMACY.   It would really help you to allow yourself to become vulnerable and even get emotional at times.  Who knows your secrets?  Who knows your fears?  Who has ever seen you cry?  Let it out.  Have a meltdown.  Talk.  Confide in someone you trust.  It isn’t necessary to bear it all in silence.  It isn’t weakness to feel.

Pisces: Sometimes you Pisceans can be too emotionally evolved for your own good.  And because of this it can be difficult for others to relate to you when you tell them your problems or thoughts.  So, MEDITATION is your best stress reliever.  Go within.  Everyone has this sacred place inside themselves, but you more so than others have this immense oasis that can be explored to unending heights and depths.  It’s a complete other world in there for you.  A safe escape.  Bon voyage! (Take a Libran with you 🙂

xoxo

? NiSHA

How to Live When You Feel like Dying Part 3: Soul Connection Trauma

 

Written By Monique Colette

Soul Connection Trauma

I have been through what you’re going through now. I understand the agony, the ungodly, unrelenting energetic chaos, the pull of your soul to theirs, the non-stop recurring dreams of them, the signs everywhere that only remind you of them, the heart chakra pain, the anxiety, the depression, and the feeling that you will never get through this. I want you to know that you will. But it’s going to take work on your part. You can’t give into it. You can’t wait for happiness. You have to create it yourself.

Once you meet a soul connection, your life will never be the same: It shatters you, turns you inside out, changes your cellular DNA, awakens your spiritual gifts, forces you to face your demons, unveils your shadow, drags you through a Dark Night of the Soul that will feel like death, opens your eyes to synchronicity, clears your karma, heals you, and leaves you sobbing in a pool of tears, praying to God to make the pain and ultimately, the bond to your twin go away. Your friends and family won’t understand what you’re going through. You will feel judged and ashamed that you can’t just move on and starting dating random people. You will feel crazy and obsessed. You will feel delusional. You will feel emotionally unbalanced. You will feel like a walking ball of electricity. You will read everything you can about Twin Flames and soul mates, and you still won’t have a clue what you’re experiencing. Nothing will make sense.

You won’t want to kill yourself, but you don’t want to live, so you end up existing. You will wake up every day and it will feel like a curse. You will swear at the Universe/God for destroying the life you used to know. You will resent people who are in easy regular relationships. When you tell somebody you love this person, they will tell you it’s time to move on. They will tell you it’s not meant to be. You will fall into a deeper depression. It will feel like an abyss that you’re stumbling into and nothing can stop you from falling deeper. You wonder how far you are from hitting bottom. You’ve always considered yourself a sexual person, but now the thought of having casual sex with somebody makes you nauseous. So where do you go from here? You have two options: You can allow this spiritual journey destroy you, or you can let it strengthen and change you. You have all the power, even if it doesn’t feel like it.

I am not like other bloggers/Twin Flame experts: I will not tell you what you want to hear. I don’t believe in Twin Flame magical thinking, because I know how destructive it can be. I don’t believe that a spiritual connection gives you a reason to wait for reunion. I don’t think a connection should ever interfere with your happiness. I have seen enough blogs and stories of people who spend years pining over a Twin Flame to know how detrimental this is to a person’s well being and ultimate quality of life. Even if this person is the other half of your soul (if that’s your belief), what happens to you when your twin isn’t ready? What happens to you when they don’t want to be part of your life? What happens to you when they don’t feel the connection the way you do? What happens to your life? Now let’s say you believe that they’re “running”, so you blame them. You think “they’re not ready, because they fear love and they don’t believe they are worthy. They don’t want to do the work. They don’t want to spiritually awaken. They’re in another relationship because it’s easy. They’re not even happy with this person, but they stay because they’re scared of the connection we have.” Okay, that’s fine if you believe this, but now what? Where does this leave you? Ask yourself “What am I doing to improve my life? What am I doing to bring joy into my life without my twin?” If you can’t answer or don’t know, then you have work to do. It’s time to put the focus back on you.

Since the Universe is made up entirely of energy, you have to learn how to work with the Universal Laws. If you focus all your time and energy on this spiritual connection, you will only push the person away and stagnate the energy of the connection you have with them. Basically you have to do the opposite of what feels right. Since the energy of a Twin Flame connection is so powerful and intense, your instinct is to only think and worry about them. But the more you think about them, the more obsessed you will become, and the less the energy between you two will flow. The only way to stop obsessing is to create outlets to pour your energy into. The goal is to pull away the energy from your Twin Flame, so you are able to dive into your passions and focus on your life purpose, whatever that may be.

You have been awakened by your twin, so that you will begin your mission. This mission may be spiritual, but it doesn’t have to be. It could be as simple as “you need to start writing”, or “you need to create a community of people with shared interests.” But it could also be “you need to become a healer, so you can heal others”, or “you need to become a yoga teacher to help people spiritually connect.” Your mission is unique. A spiritual obsession with your twin will only keep you distracted from this mission. If you are currently feeling this obsession, it’s okay. Be gentle with yourself. You can slowly pull your energy away from them, which will release the obsession. It may take time, but you can do it. Don’t get discouraged and be patient with your progress.

You may ask “But what about them? I want to be with them in a physical relationship?’ I want to be in union.” This is understandable. The more you balance your energy, which requires lots of grounding and the more you focus on you, that’s when the energy between you and your twin starts moving again. At this point, there will be a chance of reunion. In many cases, twins choose to stay separated. In those instances, a new soul connection will come into your life, and believe it or not, the relationship can be just as fulfilling. Another soul connection will feel like home, just as you felt with your twin. It may not be the same love, but it will be just as beautiful and Divine. Trust in what the Universe has in store for you. But at this point, you don’t have to worry about any of this. The only thing you have to start working on is your energy and yourself. That’s it. Release your fears to the Universe. Ask your Spirit Guides and Angels to take away your anxiety and sleepless nights. Let them handle the heavy stuff. Your goal at this time needs to be refocusing your energy on you and finding your passions and creating new ones. This is how you rebuild on an energetic level after devastation and trauma.

My yoga teacher always says “no rush” in the most calming, soothing voice, particularly during our flow, where everything naturally speeds up. And I think about that phrase outside of class from time to time, when I feel stress and want to rush, or I have that fight or flight anxious feeling. Use those words as your mantra in your journey. Cultivating patience with yourself and your healing is important. There is no rush. You are exactly in the right place at the right time at all times. Do not compare your journey with others. Embrace your spiritual path. It is as beautiful and special as you. Whatever you need, ask the Universe to provide, and if you believe, it will naturally flow to you.

If you are currently dealing with a twin flame connection and need help navigating it, book a Twin Flame Connection Reading or Energy Balancing Session with us here:  http://awakenedqueen.com/twin-flame-connection/

We are here to help you with whatever you are dealing with.  Find out if reconnection is possible or how you can move on. We can guide you in any situation, no matter how difficult and complex it may seem.

Losing Your Twin Flame

 

Written By Catherine

So you met your twin flame and you’ve been through the stages: you’ve surrendered, you’ve healed, you’ve had your Awakening. Now the signs, your guidance and material reality all point to the same end: it’s over. You aren’t going to be with your twin in this lifetime. How do you deal with that, how do you move on?

For most people the hardest part is acceptance. I’ve been asked to write this post because so many people believe that holding a space for your twin means holding on to hope. This delays the last stages of your healing and can prevent growth or change in other parts of your life.

Holding a space for your twin ultimately means forgiving them for choosing not to heal. We all have free will. Some of the guidance for twin flames talks about the “soul turn”; one twin is Enlightened and the other becomes ready and willing to have a healthy relationship. This can happen but your twin can also reject it.

Understand that a soul turn requires your twin to face themselves. They must face everything they’ve done to bring the relationship to its current shattered state. They must face the distance they’ve put between themselves and God.

You know how difficult and painful that is because you did it. Some people find it easier to turn their back on a part of themselves and sacrifice their spiritual growth for the comfort of ego defenses. That is their right. We all have free will.

So you hold space for your twin the way you hold space for your inner child: with firm tenderness. You accept their decision and draw your own boundaries. You reinforce this precious new subconscious belief: I deserve healthy love. You’ll know its working when the idea of reunion is no longer appealing. You’ve realized your twin can’t give you the love you deserve.

You may feel like you are no longer interested in any kind of romantic relationship at first. This is fine, because the relationships that follow your twin flame relationship are going to be very foreign to you when they do happen.

Before you met your twin, when you met your twin, you were really searching for God. You were searching for a Divine reflection of yourself in another human’s eyes. In the “bubble” stage you found it. Now you have a direct personal connection to God. The longing for love and the intensity of infatuation has evaporated because you are no longer looking for God in other people.

This is love without attachment. Now you are attracting people who can love you without attachment, and the two of you are operating from attraction alone. This means that relationships take longer to form or don’t require burning out the intensity to realize there isn’t much there to work with.

Moving on after you lose your twin means focusing on the other areas of your life. The process of dealing with a twin flame or soul connection relationship is transformative. There are mostly likely parts of your life that no longer fit. You’ve outgrown situations and other personal relationships. Rebuild your foundation.

As God brings new potential partners to you, be open-minded. Allow yourself to get to know them and allow them to know you. You are practicing loving from a place of truth. You are learning to hold your truth in the face of another perspective. These are skills that require some development.

Focus on the silver lining. Ask God to show you what good can come from the loss of your twin if you are struggling to see it. For me it is my freedom of expression. I no longer have to condition the expression of my feelings or creativity to provoke or avoid my twin’s reaction, or anyone else’s. When you understand God and you realize how deeply God understands you it is easy, necessary and joyous to live beyond praise and blame.

If you are currently dealing with a twin flame connection and need help navigating it, book a Twin Flame Connection Reading or Energy Balancing Session with us here:  http://awakenedqueen.com/twin-flame-connection/

We are here to help you with whatever you are dealing with.  Find out if reconnection is possible or how you can move on. We can guide you in any situation, no matter how difficult and complex it may seem.

New Moon in Sagittarius

 

Written By Catherine

Sun and Moon at 7 degrees Sagittarius: Cupid knocks on the door of a human heart.

This symbol is about emotional rebirth and the stirrings of romantic love. This new moon offers us an opportunity to apply the lessons and healing from Scorpio season to bring our intentions to fruition. Romantic love in its highest form is about the balance of the Divine masculine and the Divine feminine. This can manifest in a relationship with a partner, in a relationship with Source, or within our own being. The receptive principle supports the creative principle.

Sesquisquare Uranus at 20 degrees Aries: A young girl feeding birds in winter.

Sesquisquares represent disharmony and irritation: minor conflict. The keywords for this symbol are the transmutation of life into love. It represents compassion and hope. The opportunity for emotional rebirth may come from a sudden revelation or an sudden change born from a new understanding of compassion, or a new way to bring compassion to a difficult situation.

Square Neptune at 9 degrees Pisces: A jockey spurs his horse, intent on out-distancing his rivals.

Here we see that perhaps emotional rebirth was not exactly what we were most intent on manifesting. This symbol is about the pointed pursuit of success, an approach most used for personal and material goals, not relationships and emotional matters. We are reminded that love and emotional healing are not antithetical to material success: when we raise our vibration we manifest bigger and better things. Love in any form fuels our personal success when we stay true to ourselves.

Square North node at 8 degrees Virgo: A five year old child takes a first dancing lesson.

This symbol represents the potential of initiation, and the north node of a chart shows us the spiritual significance of that moment in time. To make the most of this moon cycle we will need to show our new understanding in our daily lives and ground the healing we experienced in the last cycle. There is a new way of doing things and a new manner of being available to us; harnessing this energy is the key to success under this new cycle.

Sesquisquare the Vertex at 22 degrees Cancer: A young woman awaiting a sailboat.

This symbol represents the Divine feminine. The sesquisquare shows us that there is a bit of a learning curve in releasing our tendency towards toxic masculinity. The vertex is the attraction axis. We are not going to manifest our desires by hitting them over the head and dragging them home. We must honor the process of co-creation and leave the Universe some emptiness to fill. Have faith that what you desire is coming to you in the form and timing that serves your highest good.

Trine Vesta at 5 degrees Leo: Rock formations tower over a deep canyon.

Vesta is the asteroid of spiritual heritage and self-respect, and this symbol is about impersonality. The trine helps ease the restrictions we so often place on how, when and from whom we receive what we need and want. There is an opportunity to connect with the Universe more directly, an ability to set aside our conditioned preferences and open up to formless Divine energy.

Lilith at 21 degrees Scorpio: Drawing aside two dark curtains, a woman reveals a sacred path.

Lilith applies a trine to the vertex. This symbol represents a plunge into the unknown. The two curtains here could be said to represent doubt and faith; when we allow these states to exist without operating from them we can access the energy of Divine feminine. The keyword for the vertex symbol is expectancy, and here we have an ability to rest in expectation that our desires are manifesting without our interference in the details.

Ascendant at 6 degrees Sagittarius: A game of cricket.

This symbol represents group solidarity and it refers to our guides. The ancestors, Archangels and Ascended Masters are always meeting our material efforts with support on the spiritual plane. When we understand this process of co-creation we can ask for the situations and circumstances we desire and let our guides bring them to us according to Divine design.

Midheaven at 20 degrees Virgo: A caravan of cars headed to the west coast.

The keywords for this symbol are “a totalization of purpose and effort”, and while it might appear so at first, it is not a call for a strong-armed pursuit. Here it refers to wholeness, a total effort. It suggests that the best approach to success in this cycle is examining our words and behavior to encourage what feeds our intentions and eliminate what is working against our conscious desires.

Descendant at 6 degrees Gemini: Workmen drilling for oil.

Avidity is the keyword for this symbol, and as the Descendant it shows us that there is a time and place for this energy. When we are presented with an opportunity that has the potential to bring about our desired success, then our masculine energy is well-placed and appropriate. This placement indicates that the waxing moon phase will give us that chance to openly pursue our manifestations.

IC at 20 degrees Pisces: A table set for an evening meal.

The IC of a chart represents the root, and here we see the root belief that underpins the meaning of this new moon cycle. The act of setting the table means that we are preparing to receive a meal. It symbolizes our faith in ourselves and our belief that our desires will be fulfilled. We may not know what is in the oven or when it will be ready, but if we set out the fine china in full expectancy of the feast we will be prepared to receive.

Summary:

This chart forms a strong t-square, triggering a subconscious urge for the phantom limb of what would complete the Grand Cross. That position is 7 degrees Gemini, keywords: a fundamental trust in and cooperation with life. This is the key to manifestation under the Sagittarius new moon: understanding and believing that life is always unfolding in our favor. The details that we tend to meet with discouragement or irritation when they don’t appear to serve our goals are not proof of opposing force or failure.

We must trust that the purpose of the traffic jam is to put us in the perfect place at the perfect time, that the loss of one person or decline of one relationship is creating emptiness for someone more suited to who we are becoming. Our daily life, our behavior and our assumptions are the most powerful tools we have to build the life we want; they are best used from the perspective of trust.

 

Erotic City: Tarot Readings for Sex

If we cannot make babies, maybe we can make some time
Thoughts of pretty you and me, Erotic City come alive
We can fuck until the dawn, making love ’til cherry’s gone
Erotic City can’t you see, thoughts of pretty you and me
~ Erotic City by Prince

An Erotic City Sex Reading is where you ask questions regarding sex, desires, and fantasies, and the cards, which are designed like regular tarot cards, except they have erotic images on them, and they will guide you to the answers. These cards can be quite healing for a person trying to heal from sexual trauma or somebody looking to build a deeper connection with their partner in the bedroom.

A client could ask:

“What is my partner looking for sexually?”

“What type of sexual partner would satisfy me?”

“How can I improve my sex life with my husband?”

“How can I heal my sexual trauma?”

“How can I feel more confident in the bedroom?”

“How can I make my partner feel comfortable sexually?”

“How can I make my partner beg for more?”

“If I have sex with X, what will the sex be like?”

“What is my partner’s biggest sexual turn-off?”

“How can I feel more sexual?”

By reading these cards and tuning into the sexual energy, I can reveal all the sexual secrets.  There are several erotic tarot decks out there. Personally, I prefer the Decameron Tarot, because that was the one I was pulled in by.

Since I’ve been getting so many questions regarding these Erotic City Sex Readings, I will give you a sample reading from a client.

Her question was “What can I do sexually to my long distance boyfriend when we see each other in a few months that will make him think about me for days and weeks to come?”

Great question!

I pulled three cards.

The first card is the 4 of Cups. By tuning into the energy of the card, I’m seeing a man peeping on a woman behind a door. There is a voyeuristic quality to this card. My gut is telling me this man wants to watch his girlfriend in the shower, undressing, touching herself, etc. He wants her doing naughty things in private while he peeps on her. She should take a shower and invite him to watch behind the curtain while she moans, soaps herself up, and puts on a little sexy show for just him. Men are visual creatures. They like to see their lovers’ bodies. They like to watch them feel and act sexual.

The second card is Justice. The woman is depicted blind-folded, naked, with her beautiful ass exposed. This man wants to see his girlfriend stripped, blind-folded, on her hands and knees, under his control. He’s looking for some light S&M. He wants to be a master to her servant girl. He’s also dying to see that ass bent over in front of him again. If she tells him that he’s in complete control, he will melt in her hands. This is the type of dynamic that gets him off in the bedroom. He loves a woman who will submit to him.

The third card is the 2 of Cups. The message is pretty clear: She needs to ride him like a cowboy. As one of my best guy friends used to say “Women need to fuck us (men) like they’re getting medical benefits from it, like it’s their job and they have a 401k plan attached to it.” In other words, he wants her on top, doing all the work. She should tell him to lie back and just enjoy the experience while she gets off on top of him. He wants her to ride him and have an orgasm from it. Again, he wants to watch her, which is why he wants her to be on top. He’s dying to see how sexy she looks in the throes of passion. The 2 of Cups is all about connecting. In this case, he wants to connect to his lover by feeling her orgasm while he’s inside of her.

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Twin Flame Pain

TWIN FLAME PAIN

Every soul connection that comes into our lives brings with them their own set of lessons and healing. They reflect back to us the shadow aspects and wounds that we would rather avoid. They show up to wake us up, to make us face what we’ve been avoiding. They mirror deep karmic pain that we have made a soul contract to heal in this lifetime. We have suffered many lifetimes, carrying this pain with us. Sometimes we don’t even realize it’s there. It’s buried so deep in our subconscious, in our souls, that we have no idea that we are burdened by such darkness.

That is until we meet a Twin Flame (I prefer to call them soul connections), and all that karmic pain rises to the surface. Suddenly, our past wounds, the heartbreaks and childhood wounds feel so deep, it’s as if somebody has carved us open with a dagger. We feel vulnerable and exposed. We think “How is it possible that this person, this soulmate, I have such strong, loving feelings for can make me feel so bad? How can they cause me so much pain without even doing anything? How can they make me feel so afraid and bring out such intense, uncomfortable feelings?”

These people come into our lives and trigger our deepest pain to heal us and clear these blockages that keep us from truly loving ourselves. Because until we love ourselves, we can’t give love to the full capacity that we are meant to. Soul connections push our buttons. They pull away when we need them the most; they take away their love when it’s all we’ve ever feared; they abandon us at our weakest moments; they make us face ourselves. They strip away all our distractions, so we finally look into the mirror once and for all. For the firs time, we see all our flaws, weaknesses, insecurities, all the things that we have hidden our entire lives. This person walks into our life, then walks out. And we are left feeling abandoned, naked, and torn apart. We wonder why it hurts so bad, why we feel so lost and afraid to pick up the pieces of our lives and start over. We don’t have the strength to begin again. It’s been drained from our bloodstream.

Their spiritual gift to us is to crack us open, so we may heal and shatter us, so we can rebuild ourselves into more balanced, stronger people. As Rumi says “The wound is where the Light enters you.” Like a phoenix rising from ashes, we transform into powerful and magical beings.  As long as we surrender to this process, this will happen. If we fight what the Universe is trying to do for us, we will only delay our progress. For some, it takes months. For others, such as myself, it takes years. True surrender is realizing that the connection is all about you and not them. It’s not about losing a piece of yourself, because you’re already whole. It’s not about them losing you either, because they are whole as well. Soul connections are not based on need.

Need creates imbalance. Between partners, when there is an imbalance, the connection cannot flow and the two have to separate. They repel each other energetically. That is why partners may get together, then have separations as time goes on, because imbalances and energetic blockages come up for people. Needing love repels love. It’s pushy energy that is based on what the Law of Attraction theory would call “lack.” In a soul connection union, there needs to be a balance between the feminine, the yin, and the masculine, the yang. Once it’s out of balance, problems arise. One partner may feel the need to separate from the other until the energy re-balances. Healing must take place before this can happen.

Codependency is an issue that many soul connections deal with. It is sometimes the greatest lesson for us to learn. Learning to love without need, without desperation, without pain, without a constant feeling of longing is what we experience during a separation. Regardless if they ever come back into our lives, we are taught the lesson to love in a healthy way. In order to fill somebody’s emotional cup, we must fill our own first. Our immense, flowing love for a partner can be showered upon them like a waterfall as long as we keep a reservoir within ourselves. We can only love them as much as we love ourselves. And we can never give more to them than we would give to ourselves in order to keep the scales balanced. Once the energy of a connection balances, the tremendous power of love reveals itself.

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Twin Flame Healing Spell

TWIN FLAME HEALING SPELL WITH ARCHANGEL METATRON

2015 and 2016 seems to be a significant  time for people meeting soul connections. Many have reached out to me here and through my Twitter, regarding their Twin Flame connections. I know this is a painful, difficult process, and I thought I would help people deal with theirs by creating a spell for healing themselves and their Twin Flames. Healing is a crucial piece of the journey. This is a lovely way to help each other through the connection.

For this spell, you will need:

(2) WHITE 7 DAY CANDLES

ROSE QUARTZ CRYSTALS

A PICTURE OF METATRON’S CUBE

A BROWN PAPER BAG

A PEN

 

The first thing you want to do is quiet your mind. Before you cast the spell, relax. Close your eyes, take some deep breaths, and let all your thoughts go. If you need some additional help, check out Jonathan Goldman’s music on youtube. All you have to do is listen to the music and CHILL. Once you feel relaxed, tear off a piece of paper from the brown paper bag. You are going to take the pen and write out your prayer of intention. This is where you ask for healing for both you and your Twin Flame. Keep your focus on the healing aspect and not the reunion. If the reunion is meant to be, it will be. Healing is the most important part.

Write on the piece of paper what type of healing you need. Then ask that Archangel Metatron heal and clear your chakras. If you don’t know what type of healing you need, you can ask that the healing goes wherever it needs to. For your Twin Flame, ask that he/she is healed through the loving energy of Archangel Metatron. Once you have written the prayer exactly as you wish it to be, set it down, and prepare your candles.

At the top of the first candle, take a nail or pen and carve out your first name or initials. On the second candle, carve out your Twin Flame’s first name or initials.

Scatter the rose quartz around the candles. Place the picture of Metatron’s Cube between the 2 candles. You can print it from online or draw it. If you don’t have it, you can envision it in your head.

Ask for Archangel Michael to protect you with his Blue Sword of Fire. Then call in your Spirit Guides of Love and Light and Archangel Metatron.

Recite your prayer of intention 3 times. Then light the 2 candles. Thank the Angels and Spirit Guides for hearing your prayer, then tell them to leave your circle of healing.

Burn both candles all the way down. If you need to go to bed, or leave the house, snuff out the candles, do not blow them out. 

Through the power of the spell, you and your Twin Flame will find healing. Healing is a process. You will be guided to different people and experiences. Healing shows up in unexpected forms. You may feel pulled toward a certain group of people, a trip, a new activity, a book, spiritual guides/healers/therapists/hypnotherapists. etc. Healing happens slowly, but it happens. And it’s a wonderful journey that opens us up to a life of joy where there was once suffering. Healing transforms us. It is the greatest gift of love you can give to yourself and your Twin Flame.

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Sunset

 

Written By Monique Colette

One winter night to help me ease my pain, I wrote a poem about the type of love I wanted. It was the first time in years I had felt hope that I could find it. It was the night I finally let him go. I had finally had the courage to go online and look at his friends’ pictures and see him with his girlfriend. They seemed very happy together. I was the outsider, and I had been the outsider for two years. He shut me out and never let me back in. He went on with his life. And I was stuck mourning the past, unable to move on.

This one particular night, I accepted that he was with her, even though I had been seeing them together in my dreams for a solid year. I had known he was with her, but I never wanted to face the truth. I cried. We had never had a chance to build anything together. Everything burnt to the ground as quickly as we got together. For two years, I had been living in an empty castle of broken dreams and regret.

Without thinking about what I was going to write, I picked up a pen and a pad of paper and the words just poured out. It was all stream of consciousness. I didn’t even re-read it. I wrote it and stashed it away. I found it recently, and I read it. And I cried because I remembered how healing it felt to write about another man, another type of love from what I had experienced. I wrote this poem about my vision of true love. I remembered how what I wrote that night helped me move on from a love so deep, painful,  and transformative that it almost destroyed me.*

Sunset

Shred my soul

I will love again

Make me feel the light

Be the sun that shines upon my skin

You free me

You heal the broken pieces

I feel you

I love you

You tremble

under my touch 

You moan

my name under your breath

You break apart my fear

The moon shimmers on us

Pierce my heart

I feel you in my veins

Let my kiss heal you

The light illuminates the dark

The heat melts the ice

I want to love you

Make the rain wash away the hurt

Tear me apart so I can feel you

Stars fall upon us as our lips touch

Let the ruin bind us

Your love surrounds me

My body shivers when you grasp me

The sunset burns our skin

Say my name in the dark

My heart beats under you

Taste me

Taste my sweat

Feel my body rise and fall

Love me

Crave me

Heal me

Touch me in ways you’ve never touched before

I see the light in your soul and the scars on your heart

Hold me

Let the whole world spin

Surrender

Inside us a fire burns

Dive into the ocean

Never let me go

Let everything shatter until we see the sun

Let me be the air you breathe

Let the cups overflow

The thunder shakes us

You are everything I have dreamed

Shine your love upon me

Hold me and I will hold you

Promise I will never break again

4 of Cups: Luxury

Bliss—a-second-by-second joy and gratitude at the gift of being alive, conscious—lies on the other side of crushing, crushing boredom. Pay close attention to the most tedious thing you can find (Tax Returns, Televised Golf) and, in waves, a boredom like you’ve never known will wash over you and just about kill you. Ride these out, and it’s like stepping from black and white into color. Like water after days in the desert. Instant bliss in every atom.”

– David Foster Wallace

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The journey through the tarot cups continues as we move away from the celebratory energy of the 3 of Cups to the stable and balanced, yet slightly boring, 4 of Cups. Aleister Crowley titled it “Luxury.” When you look at the Thoth 4 of Cups, you see a lovely image of 4 golden cups flowing with water. Everything seems perfect, but in life, nothing is ever perfect.

This card warns us that when things get too comfortable, we have the tendency to wonder what it would be like to have a different life. What we once desired, we may not even want anymore. And what is being offered to us, we may not even see because we’re too focused on our current emotional yearning and dissatisfaction. We are all caught up in what we don’t have rather than what we already do or could have. It carries the message: The grass is always greener on the other side.

Crowley writes: “The card refers to the Moon in Cancer, which is her own house; but Cancer itself is so placed that this implies a certain weakness, an abandonment to desire. This tends to introduce the seeds of decay into the fruit of pleasure.” The theme of this card is ennui.

I once had a dream where I saw this card, and I heard a voice say “SUBURBIA.” When I awoke, I completely understood the meaning of the 4 of Cups. Living in the suburbs in a house with a white picket fence with a husband/wife, kids, and a dog could be boring at times, especially if the couple didn’t switch up their routine once in a while and make a conscious effort to stop and have a little fun.

This card makes me think of the vibrantly colored cookie cutter houses in the movie, Edward Scissorhands, where everything is the same. Stability and comfort are nice, but sometimes you want more from life. I believe we can create our most optimal life and make it uniquely ours without having to follow anybody else’s personal template for happiness and fulfillment.

The 4 of Cups asks us to ponder the existential questions: “What do we truly want from life? And when we attain those life goals, what will keep us from taking our comfortable, “happy” life for granted?” Stability is lovely to have in a relationship, a job, or life in general, but in regards, to emotions, there is no way to go but down, as stability quickly turns to stagnancy. In a relationship reading this could be showing us that the fantasy bubble has burst, the honeymoon phase is over, and now we need to figure out how to keep it from growing stagnant.

On a lighter note, this card may also represent the notion of self-love, sending the message that the love we find within ourselves is the basis of our happiness; it is the foundation from which to build a relationship. Emotional stability and structure in our core are the keys to a lasting relationship with another person.

In the book, Understanding Aleister Crowley’s Thoth Tarot, Lon DuQuette declares: “Love leads to Abundance, which (left uncontrolled) leads to Luxury which (left uncontrolled) leads to decadence, boredom, frustration – and Disappointment.”

Astrologically, it corresponds to Moon in the 3rd Decan of Cancer. In regards to the Quabalah, Tree of Life, it is Chesed through Water.

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3 of Cups: Abundance

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“Nobody can be uncheered with a balloon.” – Winnie the Pooh

The 3 of Cups appears in a reading when we are living in a state of joy and pleasure. It is the celebration card. If the Ace of Cups is the seed, and the 2 of Cups is the bud, the 3 of Cups is the blossom. Aleister Crowley titled it “Abundance” and stated it was: “The fulfillment of Will of Love in abounding joy. It is the spiritual basis of fertility.”

In this card, we see pomegranates adorning three cups. The pomegranates represent Persephone, the goddess of the underworld and wife of Hades, the god of the underworld.  These are symbolic of marriage, fertility, abundance, and rebirth.

In the myth of Persephone, Hades was madly in love with her and wanted her as his wife, so he tricked her into eating six pomegranate seeds. She didn’t realize that for each pomegranate seed eaten, she would have to spend one month a year in the underworld with Hades.

According to the legend, she lived with Hades as his wife for six months out of the year, and stayed with her mother, Demeter, goddess of the earth, for the other half of the year. Crowley, the true pessimist, gives us a subtle warning with this card that emotional fulfillment may have a shadow side to it: All that glitters is not gold. He states: “The good things in life, although enjoyed, should be distrusted.” Talk about a buzzkill!

In the Thoth 3 of Cups, eight golden lotus flowers are displayed. Lotus blossoms symbolize rebirth, regeneration, and reincarnation. Lotus flowers grow from muddy water. During the day, they open to allow the rays of the sun to give them life. In the evening, they close as the moonlight shines upon them in their deep slumber. Every morning, they are brought back to life by the sun.

The three chalices may represent specific people, emotions, or situations where we experience good times. It may show up in a reading as a girls’ night out, a party, a first date, a committed relationship, or as a message that we need to experience more joy in our lives. It’s the card that tells us not to take life too seriously and to have a little fun. Life is to be enjoyed to the fullest.

In regards to a relationship, after much analyzing and introspection, I’ve realized that the 3 of Cups may represent the two people in the relationship and the separate entity that is the relationship itself. Two people create the relationship. The relationship is their baby, in a sense.

Through their effort, they make the relationship into whatever they choose it to be. It requires both of them to make the union work. Each person must put in the same amount of effort as the other for it to be balanced. All three cups must be flowing with equal amounts of water, otherwise there’s going to be an imbalance in the relationship. Since each chalice is overflowing with water (emotion/love), it may be a message that for a relationship to truly last, each person must love himself/herself first.

It corresponds astrologically to Mercury in the 2nd Decan of Cancer. In the Quabalah Tree of Life, it is Binah through Water.

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2 of Cups: Love

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“We loved with a love that was more than love.”
– Edgar Allan Poe

If the Ace of Cups is the emotional offering, the 2 of Cups is the connection that follows. It represents love, but that’s just the tip of the iceberg. It’s about harmony and emotional union. In this card, love has a focus. It takes two people to love the other for there to be a true flowing connection. There is an exchange of balanced emotional energy here.

The 2 of Cups often times alludes to a romantic love, but it may show up as a friendship or familial love as well. Some of our closest friends are our soul mates. We love them even if we are not romantically involved with them. It symbolizes any connection that touches our hearts as much as we touch theirs.

The most important aspect of this card is mutual feelings. This is not a card that would appear in a reading about unrequited love or somebody giving more in a friendship than the other person. This is all about balance and the feeling that you get back as much as you give in this relationship.

Aleister Crowley titled this card “Love” and described it as “Love under Will.” He believed it was the harmony of the feminine and masculine. In the Thoth version, there are two heraldic dolphins (pink with yellow fins) entwined around a pink lotus. Water flows onto their heads and gushes out their mouths to fill two large gold chalices. The dolphin and chalice on the right side mirrors the pair on the opposite side. This signifies mutual emotions, a truly balanced union of love.

Something to note: The dolphin was sacred to Aphrodite (Venus), the goddess of Love. It was also the companion to both the god Apollo (the Sun) as well as Aphrodite (the Moon.) The Sun is masculine energy whereas the Moon is feminine. In shamanism, dolphin personifies balance, harmony, playfulness, and love. It teaches us to connect to our emotions and not be afraid to swim in the depths of them. The 2 of Cups embodies that notion, because it is about two people emotionally open enough to connect on a deep, meaningful level.

It corresponds astrologically to Venus in the 1st Decan of Cancer. In regards to the Quabalah Tree of Life, it is Chokmah through Water.

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Ace of Cups

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“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu

The Ace of Cups is the seed of the suit of the Cups. It represents new beginnings, emotional openness, renewed emotion, an outpouring of love, or an emotional offering. This card shows up when there are no obstacles in the way. There are no emotional blocks within the person or situation. Everything just flows.

Cups represent emotions. When the Ace of Cups shows up, it is telling us that we are ready to give and receive love.  We are not held back by our past hurts. Whatever we’ve been through that wounded and temporarily closed our hearts is over, and now we are diving into the fresh waters of unlimited emotional possibility.

The Ace of Cups tells us to live in the moment of that refreshed emotion, as if we are playing in a fountain or letting a waterfall cool us down on a blistering summer day. Moments of emotional bliss are what make our lives beautiful and rewarding: It’s a kiss on our cheek from our mother, a hug from our best friend, or a passionate embrace with our lover. The Ace of Cups symbolizes that feeling of love in that perfect moment. It is powerful, because it is pure emotion and connects us to our hearts. It is so special that nothing comes close to duplicating it.

Regarding the Thoth version of this card, my tarot teacher observed that the golden cup looks like a woman holding her hips. There is an element of femininity and beauty to the card. It’s as if a woman is letting her true emotional self shine through. The Divine light that pours out of her is love pulled from the depths of her soul. This light creates an intricate web of positive energy, which surrounds the chalice as it sends out waves of love.  Love is healing. Love is a blessing. Love transforms.

Astrologically, it corresponds to the water signs (e.g. Pisces, Cancer, Scorpio.) In regards to timing questions, it would point to either of these three signs. In the Quabalah Tree of Life, it is Kether through Water.

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Embrace Your Twin Flame Experience

EMBRACE YOUR TWIN FLAME EXPERIENCE

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Within the Twin Flame community, there seems to be a major disconnect on what is a true Twin Flame vs. a soul mate. I have been living with this connection for four years; and within those four years, I have been on countless message boards, read hundreds of blogs related to Twin Flames, and had the pleasure of people writing me e-mails about their personal journeys. And the funny thing is I know nothing more than I did four years ago when I met my “twin.” None of what I read has really had any effect over my life. The Twin Flame/Soul Mate path was a significant experience for me, but it was something I had to go through to truly understand how these connections work.

I’m tired of reading about the stereotypical stages and the inner workings of a Twin Flame relationship. I don’t want to hear about the runner and the chaser and how the runner will always come back. I don’t want to see that people are waiting for their “twins” to return. The truth is we really don’t know what these connections are.

My definition of a Twin Flame is not necessarily somebody else’s. Did I experience a deep, transforming soul connection that I had carried with me for lifetimes? Yes, without a doubt. Do I think he’s half of my soul or that we share the same Higher Self? Absolutely not. I don’t believe and have never that Twin Flames are half souls, nor do I believe that they share the same Higher Self. But here’s the thing: YOU DON’T HAVE TO BELIEVE WHAT I BELIEVE. You are free to think any way you wish in regards to your personal connection.

I don’t think anybody is right or wrong, because nobody really knows. Yes, people channel information from Spirit and from collective entities, but those channeled messages may not be completely accurate, or the concepts may be misinterpreted. There’s no reason to argue with anybody over this, or try to prove to somebody that you’re right and they’re wrong.

I spent the past four years, constantly trying to push my views down people’s throats and make them see. In my head, I thought I was helping them navigate through their journeys, but I realize now that I was just throwing my opinions onto them, hoping they would stick. I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s best to experience your connection and make up your own mind on what it is and what it isn’t. Call him/her a Twin Flame, soul mate, soul connection, karmic twin, etc. It’s your connection and nobody else’s. You should have the freedom to label it any way you want without judgement or somebody telling you it’s wrong.

There are the people who will tell you that a Twin Flame relationship is easy, smooth, energetically balanced, and everything flows right from the start. There’s no push and pull, no running and chasing, and no separation. And those couples are very proud of the Twin Flame label, and they will defend it to the death. I have seen people in these relationships get so sick of trying to drill into people’s heads the definition of what they believe is a true Twin Flame that they eventually give up and deactivate their online accounts. Some of them (not all) use the Twin Flame label as a badge of accomplishment, or a reward for being spiritual. All they do is argue with separated twins and try to shower them with THEIR TRUTH, which is exhausting for both parties.

Then, there are the others who will explain that a Twin Flame relationship has stages, and many times there is a runner and chaser, and there may be a separation, but the runner will always decide to come back, and when that happens the twins live happily ever after. The two sides constantly fight about who’s in a REAL Twin Flame relationship, and who’s not.

Trust me, the separated ones are already experiencing some of the worst pain imaginable. They don’t need anybody, especially self-proclaimed Twin Flame couples who are together, to make them feel worse about their connections. They shouldn’t have to deal with anybody judging their connections and down-playing the significance of the people with whom they feel them. It’s just not fair to do to these people who are already suffering immensely. Judging their connections and telling them that they’re not Twin Flames is not the answer. It’s not helping them. It’s not educating them. It’s honestly only making the situation worse and exacerbating their emotional pain and fear.

Let’s look at one possibility: What if there are two types of Twin Flames? There are the ones who you mesh with and everything is balanced, and there are the others where the energy isn’t. Because of this, there is no vibrational match between the two people and they separate. Like attracts like. If the vibrations don’t match up, they’ll float out of each other’s lives. Each of those types carry that “Twin Flame” energy, so instead of being one or the other, it’s both. Nobody is right, and nobody is wrong, because the two types of Twin Flames are experiencing the same energy: One is balanced and the other is unbalanced. Balanced energy keeps them together. Unbalanced energy separates them.

We need to start seeking other viewpoints and looking outside the box, finding what personally works for us. It’s okay to read the same copied and pasted literature on a website that you’ve seen a hundred times before and say “I DON’T AGREE WITH THIS. This doesn’t resonate with MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE.” Lately, there is a lot of new information that people are writing about related to Twin Flames, and it’s stirring the pot and angering people, but at least it’s making us ponder and question the way these connections work and their true purpose.

My connection is not yours and vice versa. If I experienced something different than yours, who am I to say my connection is more significant or be able to label yours? IT’S YOUR CONNECTION. You’re the one living it, and the anonymous person on a message board preaching to you about their connection compared to yours isn’t. You should be the one who defines it. There’s this really condescending sensibility within the Twin Flame community that your connection is not real, but theirs is. I see it all the time, and it infuriates me.

If a connection deeply affects you, IT MATTERS. Nobody has the right to tell you it doesn’t. Nobody should tell you what he/she means to you, or how you should feel about them. You have the power. Do not allow another person to try to take it from you or make you feel beneath them.

Matt Kahn, a spiritual speaker, says “Judgement is the opposite of Love. You cannot love when you are in the state of judging.” In regards to all the people who write to me or have shared their stories online, I will only hold you and your truth in a state of Love. I refuse to judge. I just ask that you do the same for me.

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Why Twin Flame Running Chasing is an Illusion

WHY TWIN FLAME RUNNING CHASING IS AN ILLUSION

Whenever somebody mentions a Twin Flame relationship, 9 times out of 10, you will hear them use the words “running” and “chasing.” When a Twin Flame couple meet, it’s sheer bliss. But when they separate, it’s hell on earth. One of them runs. The other chases. That’s the classic dynamic. One twin is always running while the other is chasing them, trying to get them back. The more I’ve thought about this theory, I’m starting to believe that running and chasing is an illusion.

What is running and chasing really? If one of the twins leaves the relationship, are they really running from the other, or is the separation a necessary, Divinely guided event to help each other heal? Is the twin who left running from love, or is he/she creating a catalyst event so the other twin can spiritually grow? It is said that twins must have balanced energy to be together. Once the energy between two twins becomes unbalanced, they separate. If that is the case, would that be considered running? Wouldn’t that be a mutual energetic separation, like if two magnets repelled each other?

 

I always hear people say “My twin is running.” By making this statement, they’re inferring that their twin is to blame and that they’re more awakened, more aware of the connection, and more accepting of love than their twin. They carry a lot of bitterness in their hearts when they believe this. I think it’s a natural emotion to feel when you’re going through the separation. At times, I’ve believed it myself. There is always a certain amount of blame in these connections, whether it’s one twin blaming the other and/or one twin blaming themselves.

Human beings are simple creatures who are ruled by their egos. When spiritual matters collide with ego, there is a battle. It’s easier for us to blame the separation on “running” instead of looking at the deeper reason. One runs. The other chases. And the longer the twin runs, the more blame is placed on him/her, and the more the other twin feels like a martyr. All of it is an illusion.

In my experience, running was an internal process. It had nothing to do with my twin, and everything to do with myself. I didn’t want to face my demons. I was seeing all my flaws reflected back to me, and I didn’t want to deal with them. Because of that, it felt like I was running from the relationship and the connection, but in actuality I was running from the inner work. It didn’t have to do with the love for my twin or the romance we had: IT WAS ALL ABOUT ME. The connection to him was the ultimate mirror of what was going on inside myself.

Think of the connection as a majestic oak tree with many branches. Each branch represents an aspect of the connection. One is “Love”; one is Relationship; one is “Mirror”; one is “Healing”; one is “Spiritual Growth”; one is “Ego”, and one is “Transformation”, etc. Every branch on the tree is just as important as the other. The roots are held by Mother Earth, just as the Twin Flame connection is linked to the Universe. Every piece of the connection is significant. That’s why it’s pointless to focus on one part only.

It’s not a regular relationship. It’s complex. We as a collective community need to stop obsessing over the running and chasing. Running and chasing is just a distraction for our own egos. It’s not real. Even when we think we’re running, we’re not. We’re standing still. Even when we think we’re chasing, we’re not. We’re only trying to find the love within ourselves.

If you are currently dealing with a twin flame connection and need help navigating it, book a Twin Flame Connection Reading or Energy Balancing Session with us here:  http://awakenedqueen.com/twin-flame-connection/

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